Why You Love Narcissists: Unveiling the Invisible Attraction
Lisa A Romano Breakdown to Breakthroughs
Lisa A. Romano
4.8 • 805 Ratings
🗓️ 16 December 2024
⏱️ 16 minutes
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Summary
Have you ever felt unable to break up with a narcissist? Have you ever wanted to understand why you attract narcissists even though you are kind-hearted, fair, empathic, and considerate? If you find yourself entangled with highly narcissistic people and feel stuck and confused, it is time to unravel the invisible attraction. Narcissistic people lash out, react, and often view themselves as altruistic and good. In the grandiosity of one's false perception of self, those who love narcissists discover themselves baffled by a narcissist's solidified flattering opinion of self.
Codependents, people-pleasers, and those who have been conditioned to seek approval as a result of childhood emotional neglect, feel more comfortable chasing approval than ever receiving it. For this reason, the energetics of a narcissistic-codependent relationship work, albeit in a dysfunctional way. In this episode, Lisa A. Romano unravels the invisible mysteries of why and how it is one can fall in love with a narcissist and feel so uncomfortable with ending things.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Breakdown to Breakthrough, the podcast that empowers you to transform your life |
| 0:04.7 | by awakening to your true authentic self. I'm Lisa A. Romano, your host, as an award-winning author |
| 0:10.6 | and certified life coach, I've dedicated my life to helping others understand the incredible |
| 0:16.0 | power of an organized mind. I believe that true empowerment begins with awakening to our false self. |
| 0:23.2 | I created the Conscious Healing Academy, a three-part coaching and brain retraining program, |
| 0:28.2 | designed to help individuals triumph over trauma and turn the breakdowns into powerful |
| 0:33.6 | breakthroughs. |
| 0:34.5 | My mission is to support you on your journey toward mental and emotional |
| 0:38.5 | regeneration through conscious and deliberate awakening. In this podcast, I'll share insights, |
| 0:44.4 | tools, and transformative stories that will illuminate the path to healing and self-discovery. |
| 0:50.2 | So today I wanted to address all those out there who continually find themselves in unhealthy, toxic and oftentimes one-way narcissistic relationships. |
| 1:01.2 | I wanted to demystify why those who grew up in toxic homes, who often grew up feeling invisible, who have been taught that they are not acceptable unless they're |
| 1:13.6 | pleasing someone. And how this inner programming sets you up to feel very attracted at the |
| 1:23.4 | heart level to someone who is highly narcissistic. So when you break it down, people always ask me, |
| 1:30.7 | so oftentimes ask me, I'm not a narcissist. Why am I attracting narcissists? If I am |
| 1:38.6 | codependent, if I am empathic, if I am a people pleaser, I mean, my wife is not a people pleaser. My wife is |
| 1:48.4 | demonstrative. My wife is aggressive. My wife only thinks about herself. My wife is annoyed when the baby |
| 1:56.7 | cries. My wife is annoyed when my four-year-old asks for a bag of pirate booty. My wife is |
| 2:05.8 | annoyed when the teachers at school suggest that the kid's hair isn't clean and something has to be |
| 2:13.0 | done. And so when we're dealing with somebody who is highly narcissistic, they're very thin-skinned, |
| 2:18.8 | and they're not in emotional control. They're emotionally dysregulated. And their sense of control |
| 2:26.4 | comes from being aggressive, from being grandiose, from playing the pity party within their own consciousness. Their anger is your |
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