Hello and welcome to the Empowered Couples podcast. We're here you get modern, non-boring relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay on the same team. No matter the challenge that you face, I am one of your hosts, Erin Freeman. And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freemans. And this episode is about why some partners struggle to apologize. I'm not calling myself out here.

Yes, this one's about you.

And how to get better.

We laugh about that.

The truth is Aaron is really great.

He's developed himself.

He's gotten better over time at the big apologies, right?

After an argument, taking responsibility. You guys know we're big on repair we have

an entire repair process i like how you have to define this for me and me not say it myself well so

what's the part you struggle with so i do struggle with the little um sorries and as we go through this

i think we want to make sure we're making this differentiation

between repair and blips.

And if you haven't heard or are not familiar with blip, I mean, it's not groundbreaking.

We talk about it in our book.

But you have these moments in the relationship where there's miscues, there's misunderstanding, communication doesn't land.

We actually take an action that's not from the best attitude.

Like I can be frustrated and withdrawn, and so the action I take does cause a little disruption.

Now we want to focus on that really today that that's a blit moment versus what we

would normally be talking about is repair. And you know us for communication and for repair

when something has either been repeating or it's more in the realm of a trauma or you've had a conflict cycle and it's escalated and

you've done more damage these are times where you're in the repair and that i'm sorry follows the

steps as you're all familiar need to reflect take responsibility reconnect, then you're reminding of agreements.

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