Hi everyone, welcome back to doing it. So you may or may not know, but I am currently

working towards becoming a certified sexuality educator through a course at IC, which stands for

the Institute for Sexuality, Education and Enlightenment. And whilst I have

mixed feelings about if you need a qualification or what kind of qualification you need to become a

sex educator, because I already am one without this course, there are still a lot of things that I have

been learning from the classes and

webinars that I have been taking. And one of those things that came up was about sex addiction

and how it isn't real, which blew my little mind as a person who lives in a society where

the narrative is that sex addiction is a real thing.

But this is a new thing I've recently come across, so I didn't feel like I could do the topic justice myself.

So I have roped in an expert.

My guest today is Silver Nevers, who is a psychosexual and relationship psychotherapist and author,

and he's here to dispel all of the myths around sex addiction and give us a better framework to view sexual behavior through.

We talk about the difference between the public idea of sex addiction and the understanding of it in a sex therapy clinic.

And Silver gives us a rundown on what the definition of an addiction is.

And so how things like sex and porn addictions don't fit.

We also talk about problems with 12-step sex addiction programs, how they become about avoidance

and seeing all sexuality as bad and trying to fix a problem that doesn't really exist.

And so then we get on to compulsive sexual behaviours, which is what someone who might think they are a sex addict

could be experiencing. And we talk about the causes of these and the potential distress

caused by them like shame, mental health issues, sexual trauma and chronic stress.

And then, towards the end, we get on to answering your questions. And so for that

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