Why Self-Help Isn’t Working - And What to Do Instead | Mark Manson (Fan Fav)

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🗓️ 27 September 2025

⏱️ 131 minutes

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This is a fan fav episode. Why are most people struggling to get ahead? They’re struggling to get ahead in their career, their business, their relationships, and even in the battle they have every day with themselves. If you’re like most, you turn to the most popular books, courses, and communities that seem promising. You get pumped and feel like a freaking rockstar in the middle of it all, but the second you’re back alone with yourself nothing f*cking changes! That is what we call spiritual entertainment. The problem isn’t getting the information you need or access to better resources, the problem is that you’re not effectively implementing the ideas you hear because your behavior never changes. What do you do when self-help isn’t changing a damn thing in your life? Mark Manson, bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and the man that helped write Will Smith’s memoir, Will has gone from struggling blogger to thought leader in self-help. This episode is exactly what you need to stop being your own victim of self-help failures. Mark’s 3 universal principles will help you break the spiritual entertainment cycle, stop feeling bad about where you are and start embracing the kind of action and validation that will actually get results. QUOTES: “How do we leverage the social pressure of the internet in a positive way instead of the negative way?” “Responsibility is so important because it empowers you psychologically.” “Many people may own my past but only I own my future. I need to explicitly take responsibility in making sure it’s a good future.” “You don’t stop feeling bad. You feel bad, you find a way to respond well despite feeling bad.” Follow Mark Manson: Website: ⁠https://markmanson.net/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@IAmMarkManson⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/Markmansonnet/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/markmanson/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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1:00.3	What up, guys. I'm super excited to be joined by the former blogger turned three-time number one New York Times bestselling author Mark Manson.
1:10.1	Mark made the lead from struggling blogger giving men
1:12.3	relationship advice to becoming a thought leader in the self-help space with a twist by sharing
1:18.1	the subtle art of not giving a fuck with millions of people around the world. Mark joins me in this
1:23.3	episode to wrestle with the idea of self-help and why the books, the videos, and the
1:27.5	conferences aren't actually changing many people's lives. We talk about the problem
1:31.8	people struggle with the most implementation. It's easy to get fired up, but it's super
1:36.9	hard to stay fired up for two days, two weeks, or even two months, let alone two years,
1:41.5	two decades. Mark shares three universal principles that will help you
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