Why Positive Thinking will Not Change Your Life and What to Do Instead With David Essel

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Andrew Ferebee

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🗓️ 6 March 2019

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

Master Business, Relationship, and Success Coach, TV/Radio Host, Author of 9 Books, Inspirational Speaker
David began his career in the health and fitness industry and quickly was named “Mr. Motivation” by Lifetime Television and “The Master of Motivation” by American Fitness magazine.

Favorite Success Quote

“Every action into the uncomfortable ensures our success in life”

Key Points

1. You Have to become Uncomfortable

Life is not lived within your comfort zone.

If you want to achieve success, you cannot sit on your couch and visualize it, you have to get up off your butt and go after it.

Want to get shredded?

Get yourself to the gym, lift weights, and track your diet.

Want to make more money?

Work 80 hours a week intentionally on your business for 90 days and see what your results are.

The only way to succeed is to do the things that are uncomfrotable and painful.

2. We Cannot Live for Instant Gratification

If you are living for instant gratification, you will never acheive fulfillment.

You must learn to delay gratification, giving up what you want now for what you ultimately want.

It might not be fun to wake up early and workout or miss partying with friends to grind it out on your business, but you will thank yourself in the years to come.

3. The Path to Success Rarely Feels Good

Success can suck.

It’s just that simple.

Getting up early isn’t fun.

Working 12 hour days isn’t fun.

Cutting off unhealthy friendships isn’t fun.

But it is worth it.

Success requires you to be in pain, it is that simple.

The sooner you accept that, the easier the pain will be.

4. What You Think About You Do Not Bring About

Thinking about something day after day does nothing to move you closer to its attainment.

If you want something, then go and get it.

Don’t wish for it or visualize it, GO AND GET IT!

Work for it.

Sweat, cry, and bleed for it.

Then and only then can you truly acheive the things that you want.

5. Success in 80% Action 20% Mentality

For all of this talk bashing the law of attraction and visualization, the principles behind the psycholgy of success do have some merit.

If you want to boost the speed with which you achieve success, then using visualization techniques, affirmations, and other pop psychology tactics work when used in conjunction with massive action.

Your goal should be to devote 80% of your time to taking action and 20% of your time to mastering your psychology.

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to The Knowledge for Men's Show. Your life will never be the same. Your level of success will
0:05.1	seldom exceed your level of personal development. I want to die empty of regret. I want to die
0:10.2	empty of my best work. We don't understand who we are. Instead, we're living out somebody else's narrative.
0:15.8	But one man can do, another man can do. If it's been done, it can be done again. Being yourself and being your
0:21.4	truest, most authentic self in every moment, if it scares you or makes you a little afraid, do it,
0:27.7	follow your heart and your gut. The first stage, I think, is finding you, like finding out who I am
0:32.8	today. Stuff will not work. You will have things that fail. Success is when you're a happy,
0:37.8	fulfilled person. How do you define success? It's your life and you are the creator of the movie script
0:44.0	that is your life story. Attention. If you are a frustrated man who feels like he's not getting
0:52.4	the results he wants in his life,
0:59.8	health, wealth, relationships, and personal growth, then I've got a powerful free video training for you to help you become a strong, grounded man so you can unlock unlimited power in your life,
1:05.6	business, and relationships. Go to kfmconfidence.com to get instant access to this training. Again, that's kfmconfidence.com.
1:14.2	If you want a Cliff Notes version of the best material that I've learned after 300 interviews on this
1:19.6	podcast about being a stronger, more powerful man, then it's all here at kfmconfidence.com.
1:25.9	All right, guys, welcome to the show. I'm here with David Essel. He's the author of
1:29.2	nine books. His latest book caught my attention. Positive thinking will never change your life,
1:34.4	but this book will. The myth of positive thinking and the reality of success. I got my attention.
1:41.4	And that's why we have David here on the show today. Welcome aboard, David.
1:45.7	Andrew, I'm really excited. You know, the book has been just shattering records. We became a number
1:51.8	one bestseller about 30 days ago. It's waking a lot of people up. So I'm so fired up to share
1:58.0	all of this with you. All right. Let's see what you got. We'll put you to the test here.
2:02.2	We got an audience here who reads a ton of books and, you know, some of them are positive
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