"Why Men Go COLD After Sex!" The 7 Hidden Tests He Uses To Decide If You’re Worth It PT1

Women of Impact

Impact Theory

Society & Culture, Relationships, Education

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 18 March 2026

⏱️ 52 minutes

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You know that gut punch when a night that felt magical suddenly gets ice cold… and you’re left questioning if you were just “used”? If you’ve ever blamed yourself for a man’s emotional withdrawal, this episode is about to light you UP and set the record straight. Psychotherapist and “attachment whisperer” Adam Lane Smith returns to deliver the hard truths on why good women get trapped in the “post-intimacy cascade” and what to do instead. If you want to know the difference between a wounded guy and a manipulator, and finally stop chasing crumbs, homie… this is your episode. SHOWNOTES: Why Men Turn Cold After Sex (The Post-Intimacy Cascade) Avoidant Men: Biochemistry, Trauma, and Why He Shuts Down Spotting Anxiety & Exit Signs in His Body Language Tolerating, Chasing, Performing: 3 Ways Women Lose Themselves Manipulation vs. Wounded Attachment: How to Tell the Difference Why Clear Requests Beat “If He Loved Me…” Every Time Why Men Only Change for Consequences (Not Love) 7 Tests Men Give Women Before They’ll Commit Autonomy, Boundaries & Why Good Men Want You Out Living Thank you to our sponsors: Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa Cozy Earth: code COZYLISA for 20% off https://cozyearth.com Follow Adam Lane Smith: Website: https://www.adamlanesmith.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam Free attachment styles assessment, free newsletter, coaching, and live retreats available on his website! FOLLOW LISA BILYEU: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lisabilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:30.1	Now, are all the traitors present? Let's get started, shall we? From rags to riches.
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0:50.3	What up my homies?
0:53.3	I'm Lisa Billioux and we're back with another freaking fire episode of Women of Impact.
0:58.2	And just to paint the picture on this, imagine you have an incredible night with this guy.
1:04.4	All the chemistry, the sparks, you're thinking, wait, is this the person that I've really been waiting for?
1:10.6	And then poof!
1:11.6	Two hours later, he's gone colder than a January morning, suddenly distant, and you're
1:15.8	left spinning wondering what the hell, hold on?
1:18.7	Was that all in my head?
1:20.4	Or did I just get played?
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