Dear Resad Guruji, I have a question for you. I am a very emotional person and I often

find it very difficult to emotionally detach from myself from a situation that I know

that is not good for me. Like I can see that this is not going somewhere where I wanted

to go but it's very difficult to divert my mind and my emotions away from that. How

do you think I can handle that situation? I would really like to know your perspective

on it.

This is a whole lot of talk in the world about you know the head and the heart business

but the way you think is the way you feel and the way you feel is the way you think. For

different people, different things run first. For some people their thoughts, today largely

because of the type of education, for most people their thoughts run ahead of their emotions.

But still there is a sizable percentage of people for whom their emotions run ahead

of their thoughts. Now what Sonakshi is asking is there are situations that you don't wish

to be in but their emotions are tangled up. So thought keeps going there, unknowingly

you keep walking in the direction. What you need to understand is, thought is agile.

Today my thought says she is the most wonderful person. Tomorrow if she does something that

I don't like, immediately my thoughts says she is no good. But if my emotions have gone

ahead with this wonderful person, emotions are not that agile, they cannot turn around

so quickly, it's little sappy, it takes time. In the meantime you struggle because thought

says this is not okay but emotion is still and tangled. Now what do I do about this? Don't

try to control your emotions or thoughts because the very nature of your mind is such that I don't

want to think about this person means that's the only person I'm going to think about for the rest

of my life. So when compulsive thoughts and emotions come, first and foremost thing that you do is,

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