Why “I Don’t Care Anymore” Is a Sign of Growth in Your Midlife with Dr. Mindy Pelz (Part 2)

Earn Your Happy

Lori Harder

Entrepreneurship, Business

4.6 • 2.8K Ratings

🗓️ 7 January 2026

⏱️ 37 minutes

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I love this conversation because it names something so many women feel but rarely say out loud. That moment when you wake up and realize you can’t keep doing things the same way anymore. In Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Mindy Pelz, we dive into the identity shift women experience in midlife and why suddenly not being able to do it all, for everyone, is not a failure, it’s biology. Dr. Mindy breaks down what’s actually happening in the brain as estrogen declines, why people-pleasing patterns fall away, and how this phase of life is designed to reconnect you to your authentic voice. We talk about marriages, careers, solitude, resentment, and why menopause is actually an initiation into leadership, wisdom, and truth. Tune in to understand why this phase isn’t a breakdown, it’s a becoming. Check out our Sponsors: Shopify - Start your $1/month trial at Shopify.com/happy SKIMS - The SKIMS Holiday Shop is now open at SKIMS.com. Let them know we sent you by choosing Earn Your Happy podcast in the dropdown after you purchase. Brevo - Head to brevo.com/happy and use the code HAPPY to get 50% off Starter and Business Plans for the first 3 months of an annual subscription. Aura Frames - save on the perfect gift at AuraFrames.com - get $35 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames with promo code EARN at checkout. Northwest Registered Agent - Build your complete business identity in just 10 clicks and 10 minutes. Visit www.northwestregisteredagent.com/paidearn Blinds.com - The Black Friday deals at Blinds.com are going strong all month long! Save $50 off when you spend $500 or more - use code EARN at checkout. HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Why so many marriages and careers are reassessed in midlife. 04:30 How to communicate your changes without blowing up your relationships.07:45 How menopause rewires the brain away from people-pleasing. 10:45 What happens when estrogen declines? 11:30 Why the “We Do Not Care” phase is biologically normal. 19:30 Why estrogen trained women to prioritize others. 22:30 How menopause is designed to move women into leadership. 28:30 Why success, work, and ambition must look different as women age. RESOURCES Grab your copy of Dr. Mindy's book, "Age Like A Girl" HERE Grab your copy of Dr. Mindy's book, "Fast Like A Girl" HERE Learn more about Dr. Mindy Pelz HERE Join the Audacity Challenge HERE! Join the most supportive mastermind on the internet HERE! Check out our FREE 90-Day Business Blueprint HERE! Listen to my free SECRET PODCASTS SERIES - Operation: Rekindle This B*tch Get glōci HERE Use code: HAPPY at checkout for 25% off! FOLLOW Follow me: @loriharder Follow glōci: @getgloci Follow Dr. Mindy: @dr.mindypelz

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0:00.0	I love when women are like, I don't know, all of a sudden, I just can't do that thing anymore
0:05.1	that I did for my family.
0:06.5	I can't give my career everything.
0:08.7	I can't lose myself.
0:10.1	There's a woman who basically like snapped one day and went to her phone and was like, I'm
0:17.3	starting a We Do Not Care Club.
0:19.2	And she was like, here are all the things I don't care about anymore.
0:22.6	And I'm putting the world on notice that I won't be doing those things.
0:25.6	We love her already.
0:27.6	Right?
0:28.6	And I was like, oh my God, I can neurochemically explain that.
0:31.6	If that's you, that is normal.
0:40.7	We all know something is happening to us in our families.
0:44.1	And we all know anybody who's in their late 30s, early 40s period.
0:48.8	And of course, 50s, but 40s, I think is just this like, I think there's this expectation
0:52.9	that you're supposed to have it
0:54.6	all together and you should feel happy. And all of a sudden, we're all finding ourselves in this
0:58.9	position of like, wait, I don't know if anything I've built is actually like working for me.
1:04.1	Yeah. Yeah. I'm not sure if this, I'm watching a lot of friends go. I'm not sure if this marriage
1:08.3	is working for me, leaving a lot of marriages. Yep, leaving a lot of jobs, trying to figure out what their new purposes.
1:14.2	Like, it is very much like a time of reassessment.
1:18.5	Yes.
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