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Today we'll be breaking down why healing and wholeness must be at the center of building lasting emotional intelligence to drop these value bombs.

We've got these value bombs that are brought Scott Allender into EO Fire Studios. Scott is an expert in global leadership and organizational development, certified EQ coach and NG Graham teacher in co-host of the popular evolving leader podcast.

Scott is committed to helping leaders everywhere become more radically self-aware. And we'll talk about EQ today. We'll talk about the NG Graham and I'll share with you my number and how it can help you become more self-aware.

We'll also talk about placing value on our emotions and instincts, what this looks like in the real world and so much more. And a big thank you for sponsoring today's episode goes to Scott and ours.

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Scott say what's up to fire nation and share something that you believe about becoming successful that most people disagree with.

Hey, Fire Nation. Thanks, John for having me on something about being successful. I think what comes to mind is that the mistake people tend to make or often make is that we see and define success as being completely external to us.

And so the tendency for many people is to then set about pursuing different definitions of externally validated success measures as a way to to feel that they can be successful that they have worth that they have value that they're that they're accomplishing something outside of themselves and if they get enough praise and admiration and applause, then they are successful and what I experience in the work that I'm doing.

And the work that I do is that when people are disassociated from their own internal values, what their authentic self really wants and their deep held purpose when they don't know what that is, this can often lead to dissonance disillusionment anxiety, depression, burnout.

The most successful people I think are the people who deeply connect with the authentic parts of who they are what they really want and then align that with what they pursue in the world and that kind of success is immeasurable.

So I think that's the theme of our conversation today we're talking about why healing and wholeness must be at the center of building lasting emotional intelligence and I do want to talk about EQ.

So what is EQ and why does it matter more than our skills, more than our knowledge, more than our experiences.

I would say that EQ could be defined as our ability to make better sense of the world and therefore better have better relationships, better decision making, better able to cope with stress.

What's typically defined within emotional intelligence is our ability to manage our own emotions and understand the emotions of the people around us and at a high level that is true.

And when you zoom in a little bit closer, it can often include things like self-regulation and motivation and empathy and these kinds of things.

In my book I talk about it through the lens of self-expression, self-perception, interpersonal relationships and decision making and stress management.

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