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The Anxious Achiever

Why Ambition Can Make You a “Terror” - And How to Fix It

The Anxious Achiever

Morra Aarons-Mele

Careers, Management, Mental Health, Business, Health & Fitness

4.7600 Ratings

🗓️ 2 March 2022

⏱️ 35 minutes

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Summary

When we get jobs that seem impressive to the outside world - and get sucked into a corporate, competitive culture - we don’t always end up displaying the best leadership traits. Danny Bernstein spent nearly a decade at Google, but it wasn’t until he faced his own relationship with mental health that he was really able to improve as a manager and leader. Host Morra Aarons-Mele speaks with Bernstein about his father’s struggle with bipolar disorder, imposter syndrome, bad managers, and his goals for the future. Reach out at anxiousachievermail@gmail.com or on Linked In.

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0:00.0

LinkedIn Presents. I think if you grow up with any kind of sort of headwind or any

0:11.4

sort of challenge, I think that it ends up creating some kind of motivation. And so then for me,

0:16.9

if I could see that my dad was, let's say, challenge to sort of, you know, realize his own,

0:23.3

you know, full potential because of some of the challenges he had, then I think as his son,

0:28.1

I would be motivated to, to use the capabilities I have, sort of the lack of impediments,

0:33.6

and realize my full potential. And so the manifestation of that could be very positive, very productive,

0:40.3

sort of acting as a positive role model, being very approachable, being a consistent manager,

0:45.3

or it could motivate you to sort of try to become sort of like an outsized presence or an outsized success

0:52.3

and do it on like an almost overly accelerated timeframe

0:56.7

because you're putting pressure on yourself to realize your own full potential.

1:04.6

I'm Maura Aronsmili and this is the Anxious Achiever. We look at stories from business

1:09.9

leaders who've dealt with anxiety, depression, or other mental health challenges,

1:14.6

how they fell down, how they pick themselves up, and how they hope work will change in the future.

1:24.6

There's no doubt people are becoming more open about mental health in the workplace,

1:32.3

but it's happening at a different pace everywhere.

1:35.8

And the truth is that change, the openness to share about mental health, it has to come from

1:41.3

within.

1:42.7

Today's guest has succeeded with a great career as a leader in a giant

1:46.6

tech company. But over time, Danny Bernstein realized he wasn't really succeeding at being a manager.

1:53.0

In fact, in his own words, he was being kind of a jerk. And when he was ready to face his own mental

1:58.9

health, when he put into context how his family history and his own anxiety motivated his incredible drive to success, he started noticing that his abilities as a manager were also improving.

2:09.7

Danny spent nine years at Google and recently left that position to head to another tech giant, Microsoft.

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