Some children are natural rule followers, firstborn, myself, others see rules as options.

Maybe I will. Maybe I don't have to. Regardless of your child's personality, it's important to communicate what the consequences are going to be ahead of any misbehavior.

I'm John Fuller with Dr. Danny Wererta who heads the focus on the family

parenting department and Danny where do your kids fall on this kind of spectrum

this continuum of rule follower rule breaker.

That's interesting. I would say that Alex is my son Alex.

He's definitely he's been a real follower from the beginning.

He's had moments of breaking the rules just like any human being would. My daughter more

naturally challenges whatever boundary there is. Whether it's the boundary of a cliff or our boundaries as parents. She is definitely one that sees rules sometimes more as

suggestions and challenges it. She'll even ask. Are you sure why is that the rule? And she just

wants to understand the boundary and why it's there. Her personality lends itself

more towards a risky play, a risky

everything, and it's been fun to see the differences between both kids and it's

taken more energy around boundaries with our daughter Lexi for sure.

And somehow it feels like you're kind of like Lexi in terms of pushing boundaries.

I don't know what that says about me.

Is that true? Yeah, I would say yeah. You like risks. I love you're not afraid of them. No, no, I love them certain ones. She's she has stretched me and pulled me even further into that risky territory at times.

And it's fun to feel some of that life in there because risks can be healthy and they can

stretch the boundary of what you thought was possible.

Yeah and so wherever your child is listen in as focus president Jim Daly

chatted with Dr Ken Wilgis about teens, how they're wired, and rules.

Can you mention this? I want to tap this again. You urge parents to create an expectations and consequence list.

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