The other day as I was walking through my neighborhood I realized that somebody had put up a fence right on the corner of their property and it was pretty apparent why they did this because so many people would be taking

shortcuts through the corner part and they were kind of tired of the pathway

being worn down and they wanted people to stay on the sidewalk. That's a boundary and in life we need

boundaries with our relationships and if your child is an adult you need kind of a new set of boundaries probably for the relationship to

function well. I'm John Fuller along with Dr. Danny Werta who heads up our parenting

team and we're going to hear about boundaries with adult kids from Allison Botkey.

We're continuing a conversation with her about an acronym that she created called

Sanity. She made that for parents who have a struggling adult child and in previous episodes

Allison addressed the S which stands for stop negative behavior. A stands for

assemble supportive people and is nip excuses in the bud. Let's continue.

Allison, we've covered the S, the A, and the N of sanity.

Now let's talk about the I, which you have,

is implement rules and boundaries.

This probably is the most difficult.

And we can recognize where we've fallen short as a parent, our own, you know, misgivings, etc.

When we talk about implementing rules and boundaries, and that comes out of Galatian 6 I believe carrying each other's burdens.

How do we do that? How do we begin to set those rules and boundaries and

really change our own behavior.

That's exactly what it is.

It's changing our own behavior.

Being able to have an action plan is critical.

If you don't have anything to aim for, what's that saying? You'll hit nothing every time.

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