What to Do When a Husband Won't Lead Spiritually?
Fierce Marriage
Ryan and Selena Frederick
4.9 • 4.3K Ratings
🗓️ 17 March 2026
⏱️ 36 minutes
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Summary
Today we dive deep into the heavy reality of wives who are carrying the spiritual load alone. We break down the biblical definition of headship—Prophet, Priest, and King—and explain how a wife can win her husband "without a word" through a gentle and quiet spirit, while also giving a direct, sobering call to men to repent and embrace Godly leadership.Â
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| 0:00.0 | The biblical headship is basically this. It's a God assigned, |
| 0:03.1 | creational role and ordering of the household unit. And he's assigned that role to the husband, |
| 0:08.7 | to the man. He's given and endowed that man, specific manners of being, ways of thinking, |
| 0:13.3 | physical strength to protect, to provide, and to preside. And he does so under submission to Christ, |
| 0:18.7 | under submission to God. As a woman who has a husband who is not living in the role that she hopes for, that she |
| 0:24.8 | desires that he should be living in, this call can feel very heavy to be gentle and quiet |
| 0:30.2 | when you want to scream and shake and make things happen. |
| 0:33.4 | And it could be for all the right reasons. |
| 0:35.1 | But God's commands here, we're trusting his commands to operate quietly, gently, but also without compromise, but with consistency. |
| 0:49.5 | So this episode is for wives. |
| 0:51.3 | If you feel like you're carrying the spiritual load in your |
| 0:54.3 | household and you long for your husband to shoulder what is rightfully his burden to shoulder. |
| 1:02.1 | Embrace embrace the role that God's given him. Yeah. And he's ahead either way. And so we |
| 1:08.5 | just want to talk about how to encourage those husbands to take up that mantle. Yeah. And we always talk about this idea of headship is immutable. Uh, husband is the head of the household, whether he acknowledges it or not. For better for worse. For better or worse, either he's a good head. He's not he's a capable head. He's a willing head or he is a neglectful head. Either way, he's the head. And so we want to define that briefly. |
| 1:30.4 | By the way, I'm wearing the fierce men swag. I got a wooby hoodie on. If you're listening, |
| 1:37.4 | you can picture it. If you know what a wooby is, I always picture it like Chewbacca, you know. |
| 1:43.2 | So I bring that up because if you're a guy and you're watching this, we talk about this stuff all the time on the Fierce Men channel. |
| 1:50.2 | I say we, I mean, I and the other men there. |
| 1:53.3 | And there's a whole movement of guys on that side on the Fierce Men channel of men sharpening, strengthening, strengthening, sending, being sent to build Christ's kingdom in their heads, |
| 2:03.7 | in their hearts, in their households, and in their homeland. Since we talk about this a lot, |
| 2:06.8 | getting these ideas right in our heads, letting them work their way into our hearts and our actual |
| 2:11.1 | beliefs, understand, belief, and then action into how you lead your household, how you affect |
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