Hey, the Bird Show. You guys, I'm stuck with a friend and I'm hoping you can unstuck me.

Unstuck it. Can you unstuck me, please?

Because I'm trying to look at this without blinders on and see our point of view, her point of you, and get a better understanding

of the difference between a friendship with boundaries or is it a friendship with conditions?

Because you want to respect your friend's boundaries, right?

But at a certain point, it starts to feel like your friendship has

conditions and that's the struggle right now with a friend. Okay, we're gonna be here

a lot. so yeah and this is a person that's kind of like they need space and you want to you want to give people in your life space to deal with whatever they're dealing with but after a certain

period of time and especially if this is like a friend you value after a certain period

of time it's like okay girl how much more space do you need and I think that's that's where we

are right now so if a friend comes to you and they're like you know I just if a friend

comes to you and they're like for my own mental health, for my own well-being, I have to establish some boundaries and I have to take a step back.

You can say that you don't take that personal, but that's a hard pill to swallow

when your friend's telling you, apparently I'm affecting your mental health in a negative way,

but okay. And you want to, you want to respect that but it's mainly because your life is so complicated

dramatic and full of trauma that they can no longer handle your amount of trauma because it's affecting them.

That's what we're talking about here.

Like to the point where they said, I'm going to have to see therapy

because of what's going on in your life. Oh wow. Um, wow. Exactly. Yeah.

So you want to respect that, but I...

So it's not personally...

So it's not that the drama is between you and she or whomever.

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