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About a week ago, a bunch of our colleagues were chatting over Slack about a women-only dating app called T.

It's an app that I had never heard of.

Tea is kind of the inevitable landing point for something that's been happening on the internet for a while,

which is, you know, call-out culture. That's Kate Lindsay, who co-hosts I-C-YMIMI Slate's podcast about internet culture.

She also writes the newsletter embedded.

I ask Kate to come in and explain tea to me and why women, and in this case we're talking about straight women, would use it.

It's really started as a way for women to be like, okay, I think this guy is good.

I like where it's going.

But, you know, either through personal experience or seeing it happen anecdotally,

they want to just make sure that there is, before they, you know, go all in on this guy,

that there's no one who has had experiences with him knows of any, like, quote unquote, red flags.

Some version of this has popped up on the internet over and over again.

Facebook groups have, are we dating the same guy?

Thousands of TikTok videos follow cheater trackers.

The website, don't date him girl.com, has existed since 2005 and even

been featured on the Today Show. But T's version of Yelp for Boyfriends is an app.

You can post a guy and it basically kind of functions like Reddit where it's like the guy and then underneath

everyone just like leaves all their comments and they can either rather than upvoting and downvoting

they can assign like green flag red flag and so the point is to keep women safe or is to like

kind of elevate that whisper network into like one place with

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