This is Heather DeBros. We're on the Now you can live in it two times a week right here on podcast one welcome back everybody. I have my darling friend Michael. Yo here today. We're gonna talk about dropping Nikki off to college our kids. I mean all this stuff. Welcome Michael. Yo. Thank you. Thank you. How are you? I'm good. How are you?

Exhausted because of kids just so tired because of my kids like you're you got a couple you got one in college but when they're five into it's non stop. It's just non stop. I always say that when they're little like that it's physically exhausting and then when they get older it's mentally exhausting.

So I think I would like to mental part more than the physical part. It's a lot though. I'm not kidding like I get it because you feel like I can handle that more at least I'm sleeping but you then don't sleep because it's literally there's it just never ends I'm telling you this parenting thing just never ever ever ends even after they leave they just doesn't end.

I think my problem is is I know everybody cares about their kids but I think I care so much I start thinking about all the negative things that can happen when I'm not around right like I remember interview in James cordon and he goes after his show was a success and whatever he goes I'm petrified all the time for my family because I'm not a home and I feel like that same way anytime I travel or God forbid they travel I'm like oh are they okay like I'm that worry rat you know I feel like we all do that is.

And we think about like worst case scenarios and car accidents and you see an ambulance and you're like where is everybody and I mean it's crazy and with one now in college and the other one going next week.

I mean I mean maybe it hasn't really settled in yet but it's it's like crazy so let me tell you what happened.

Yes please.

So this past week was the last week that the twins were here right so we did like what I called the final supper on Tuesday and I thought okay this will be great you know the six of us will have dinner at home and you know whatever and then I thought it was going to be like I thought I was going to cry because like are you a

little bit more like when you give toast or like if you say something not at all no no but my son who's five is a cry so we're all a cry at five all a cry but I'll let you finish your story and then I'll get in a me dropping off my kid at school so okay no I want to hear about that so

because it's going to be vastly different than me dropping my kid.

So okay so we have this final supper and I decorated and I like I didn't want to go like two over the top but like I got some balloons it's a little things wherever and then I have these boxes made that said good luck and have their names on them and inside I put all lucky things like there was a shiny penny there was a

little bit of food so that all four of them would have like the same Buddha for like the school year there was an evil eye and a horseshoe and a scratch ticket like I did like six little they're small dream catcher.

So we did all that and I kind of went around the table and said something about each of the kids and what I hope for them for the year.

Usually I'd be a puddle like halfway through the first kid and barely eat out the thing for some reason I was very even and I got it all out and I was just it was great night with a terrific time.

I think and this is me just guess I feel like when kids got to go to college and there a way a parent has to show some strength to for the kids.

Yes and I don't know I didn't I didn't think about it like that like I didn't really have a plan.

Uh-huh, but I mean like right because you're talking about like when you drop your kid at like kindergarten you got to be like you can't cry.

No because like for instance when sometimes when my wife drops my son off he cries and that's never happened to me but it happened for the first time on Friday.

What happened he was I was dropping him off and I saw him starting to tear up in the back.

So my thing is deflect deflect oh my god I can't wait to get a school I'm going to take you to Chuck E. Cheese we're going to do this we're going to play some golf we're going to you know and then he started to the yeah yeah yeah yeah and then by the time you got a car he was pumped up you know so because I knew if I played into it like I'm going to miss you buddy too and then he would he'll be a mess.

But my responsibility as a parent is to show strength you know where if I were to even say hey bud I'm a miss you have a good dad that could trigger him yeah you know so you just got to point oh my god it's going to be great you're going to crush it at school and then we're going to do this and we're going to do that and then that gets him excited you know.

But listen ages and stages and you have to know your kid it's like your spouse it's like you know with Terry I know when to give him the man up speech or being a was and versus like coddling him and being there for like because you you have to know which speech to give so yeah when they're five and they're going to school you have to yeah totally.

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