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The Unspeakeasy With Meghan Daum

What Is a "Good Mother?" Lara Bazelon on Female Ambition, Biological Realities and Going To Trial

The Unspeakeasy With Meghan Daum

Meghan Daum

Society & Culture

4.7855 Ratings

🗓️ 25 October 2021

⏱️ 91 minutes

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Summary

Lara Bazelon has a decades-long career as a public defender. She worked as a trial attorney in the office of the public defender in Los Angeles for many years and is currently a law professor at the University of San Francisco, where she directs programs focusing on juvenile criminal justice and racial justice. But she's also a journalist and novelist. This year she published A Good Mother, a legal thriller about a tireless public defender who cuts short her maternity leave to return to work to defend a client. That client, a 19-year-old mother with a baby roughly the same age, has been accused of killing her husband. For all the novel's twists and turns, the real tension is in the subtext, which wrestles with questions like why motherhood can feel exponentially more demanding than fatherhood, whether being a "good mother" is compatible with extreme professional ambition and, most unsettling of all, what makes a "bad mother." Lara spoke with Meghan about how these questions have embedded themselves in her own career and why romantic notions of perfect motherhood can actually hurt families.They also talked about a complicated defense case she worked on with her sister, the journalist Emily Bazelon, Lara's controversial work defending men accused of sexual assault on college campuses, and their shared feelings about idealized depictions of the work-life balance of Supreme Court Justice Amy Coney Barrett. Guest Bio: Lara Bazelon is professor of law and the director of the Criminal Juvenile Justice and Racial Justice Clinical Programs at the University of San Francisco School of Law. She has taught law at Loyola Law School, where she directed the Loyola Law School Project for the Innocent. She was a trial attorney in the federal Public Defender's office in Los Angeles for seven years and has published journalism in Slate, Politico, The New York Times, The Washington Post and elsewhere. Her forthcoming book, Ambitious Like A Mother, will be published in April of 2022.

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0:00.0

I had a case and there was a trial. It was a short trial, but it was very, very important.

0:08.7

And the other side had just gotten new lawyers and they didn't really understand the case at all.

0:14.9

And so we had a conference with the judge and he suggested some trial dates.

0:19.8

And I picked the one that was early.

0:22.4

I picked the one that was on May the 17th because I knew they weren't ready.

0:26.6

And I insisted on it.

0:27.7

I wouldn't move off of that position.

0:30.0

And the case was far away.

0:31.4

So afterwards, I called my ex-husband to arrange the custody because normally I would have

0:36.3

had custody that day.

0:38.0

And I said,

0:42.6

you know, I have to leave on May the 16th to go up there. So can we please trade days? And there was just silence on the other end of the phone. And normally he doesn't give me a hard time. And I said,

0:47.8

what's the problem? And he said, what's May 16th? And I was looking in my calendar and I said, it's a Wednesday. And he said,

0:56.1

it's our daughter's birthday. And I was so consumed with getting this date and trying this

1:02.3

case that it literally, I had forgotten. Right. It didn't occur to me. And then when he said that,

1:09.2

I felt sort of flooded with shame and guilt.

1:13.9

And then he said, well, just go back and change the date.

1:17.7

And I said, no, I'm not going to change the date because my client has one chance.

1:22.7

And this is his best chance to win.

1:24.6

And I can't, I can't give up that date.

1:27.3

And I didn't. I went. We won.

1:34.1

Welcome to the unspeakable podcast. I'm your host, Megan Down. My guest is Laura Bazelon.

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