Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you. I come

unrehearsed on purpose because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

So this is a common topic theme question that comes up often when I'm helping people

with relationships. What do I do if I'm not feeling it anymore? And it's never really that simple, right? There's always a story behind that.

Unless you've never been feeling it, because a lot of people jump into relationships because they're lonely, or they don't want to be alone or you know

it's it's a part of their rebound story like they just broke up with someone and they

get into something very fast. I actually

call it jumping from one lily pad to another lily pad where they actually don't sit

with themselves, you know that whole idea of dating yourself when that doesn't happen and they jump into something really fast, and then suddenly that becomes a relationship, and they never really felt it.

It was something that they got into because they were lonely or

that they didn't want to be alone. Or, you know, sometimes people just allow things to happen

and they're not proactive about it, right?

They're just very passive and you know it's like someone likes me and no one's liked me in a long time so well I was just go with it you

know that kind of thing and suddenly you're in a relationship and one day you wake up

and you realize that you're not feeling it or you've never really felt it and if you're in that

situation that's a completely different situation but if you're in that kind

of situation where you've never felt it from day one. Usually those play

themselves out, you know what I'm saying? So like usually those aren't

sustainable. So those relationships run their course. But if you feel

that's where you're at, then you really have to ask yourself if you want to be in this and if so why right if you

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