What I’d Tell My Dating Self: Episode 764
The Boundless Show
Focus on the Family
4.7 • 772 Ratings
🗓️ 22 September 2022
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Summary
Marrieds share lessons from their dating years, plus staying out of the comparison trap, and guarding your heart while waiting to get engaged.
Featured musical artist: Zach Williams
Roundtable: If I Had to Date Again
Marriage has a way of giving you a fresh perspective on dating; sometimes hindsight is 20/20. While getting to know someone with romantic potential can be exciting, how do you know if you’re discovering the things that are truly important in marriage? To help you date successfully with the future in mind, our guests share things they did well in dating, things they wish they’d done differently, and lessons they learned from their dating journeys.
Culture: Letting Go of Comparison
For Richella Parham, comparing herself with others began in childhood with a rare and embarrassing birthmark. Comparison seemed innocuous and inevitable until years later when her husband politely pointed out that doing so had become a bad habit. Since then, Rochella’s been on a mission to let go of what others think about her, eliminate negative self-talk from her vocabulary, and embrace who God says she is. If you’ve ever struggled with comparison (and who hasn’t?), you’ll benefit from this discussion.
Richella’s Blog: Imparting Grace
Mythical Me: Finding Freedom From Constant Comparison
Inbox: Guarding Your Heart While Waiting to Get Engaged
Our listener and her boyfriend have talked about getting engaged, but it will likely be next year before he pops the question. Amidst the waiting, she’s struggling to find a balance between guarding her heart and preparing it for marriage. Is there a way to balance the two? Counselor Geremy Keeton weighs in.
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| 1:02.0 | Well, folks, welcome to this week's episode of The Boundless Show, Lisa Anderson here with you. |
| 1:14.6 | And later on for our inbox, we have a listener and her boyfriend who are thinking about getting engaged next year. |
| 1:21.7 | And she's wondering, well, how do I kind of guard my heart during this waiting time? |
| 1:27.1 | And what do I need to know? |
| 1:28.6 | What do I need to do? One of our counselors, Jeremy Keaton, is going to weigh in on that. |
| 1:33.7 | And then for our culture segment, Richelah Parham joins us to talk about letting go of comparing |
| 1:39.0 | yourself with other people. So stay tuned for our conversation with her. All right, here we are for our roundtable, |
| 1:46.1 | and we thought we would do a little retrospective with three guests here on what I would tell |
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