What Happened to You? (Part 1)

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Feelings & Co.

Society & Culture, Mental Health, Personal Journals, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 5 November 2019

⏱️ 50 minutes

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In case you didn't know, we're still making episodes that are available exclusively on Nora's Substack! - We all kind of understand that what happens to us as a child affects us as an adult, but there is recent evidence that the way our childhoods affect us is so much deeper and more surprising than we thought. So where do we start when we’re talking about how childhood adversity affects us? We start by looking at a childhood. One childhood, from a few different angles. And this child's name is Britt. This episode was produced in partnership with: Call to Mind, American Public Media's initiative to foster new conversations about mental health; and St. David's Center for Child and Family Development, which is building relationships that nurture the development of every child and family; with support from the Sauer Family Foundation, which is committed to improving the lives of disadvantaged children and their families in Minnesota. Nora also writes sad & funny books! You can buy them here. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Do you want to stop feeling guilty that life hasn't turned out like you thought it should?
0:05.2	My name is Kate Boller, and when I was 35, my life came apart unexpectedly.
0:11.3	I was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. I was a new mom, a professor, and imagined I had finally
0:18.0	gotten the life I wanted. Since then, I've heard from thousands of people who want a better language
0:25.5	and a spiritual community when we need each other most. Listen to everything happens wherever you
0:33.2	get your podcasts. I have a podcast suggestion for you. It's called a slight change of plans.
0:41.1	It is hosted by my friend, the behavioral scientist Maya Shankar, who's named the best show of
0:46.7	the year by Apple in 2021, and it features the personal stories of people whose lives have been
0:52.5	upended by a big change. Surviving disaster, heartbreak, loss, and more. And also, conversations with
1:01.2	scientists about how even small changes can make a big difference in our brains and our lives.
1:06.5	I have also been on it. My episode was called When Surviving Is Enough. We also dropped it in
1:12.4	this feed so you might have heard this show, and I beg you already like it. Their new season features
1:18.0	conversations about the science of things like meditation and self-compassion and stories about
1:23.3	navigating grief, living on borrow time after a terminal diagnosis, and learning to argue better.
1:30.2	You can find a slight change of plans wherever you get podcasts.
1:39.9	I'm Nora Mcnerney, and this is Terrible. Thanks for asking. If you know me, you know that
1:45.7	when I'm at my worst, I am the worst, the worst person you've ever met. Sometimes when I'm on a
1:52.0	plane and I hear another passenger say something rude or just use the wrong tone of voice with a
1:57.0	flight attendant, I'm like, oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, oh my god. Or even worse, once the
2:02.1	flight attendant has announced that overhead space is limited and is now reserved only for suitcases,
2:07.4	so don't put your jackets up there. And then someone stands up and puts their jacket in the
2:11.5	overhead bin. I see it. I am like, what is wrong with you? What's wrong with you?
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