What Does (And Doesn’t) Work In A Dating Profile
Love Life With Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey
4.7 • 3.1K Ratings
🗓️ 6 November 2020
⏱️ 21 minutes
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Summary
Lockdown is back (for some of us). And if there ever was a year for online dating, 2020 is the biggest opportunity there will ever be to do it.
In this episode, we talk:
- What makes you stand out in a dating profile
- Annoying turn-offs to avoid
- Why you STILL shouldn't want to try to compete with everyone else
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| 0:00.0 | Well come in, come in, welcome, take your coat off, sit down, pour yourself a cup |
| 0:29.8 | of coffee or tea and let's have a little chat. I am Stephen Hussey host of the Love Life podcast |
| 0:38.1 | and today I want to talk through some thoughts on dating profiles, specifically on how we put |
| 0:49.3 | them together and the kind of thing that we write about ourselves when we are trying |
| 0:54.2 | to put our best foot forward and let's face it, if any year was one for virtual dating, |
| 1:02.5 | it's 2020 where lots of people have been confined to their homes or to small areas of their |
| 1:09.6 | local, for obvious reasons because of the coronavirus. So when we use online dating and apps like Tinder, |
| 1:19.7 | Bumble, hinge, match, plenty of fish, you know them all, none of them sponsored this podcast so I |
| 1:25.9 | don't have a dog in this fight, you can choose your own adventure with whichever app you want to |
| 1:31.2 | plunge into. Yeah, when we choose one of these, you know, you have to write a profile and you're in |
| 1:38.9 | some way, you know, making an advert for yourself and it's not a, maybe it's a crude way to think |
| 1:46.0 | about it, like we're commodities, like you're a laptop in an Apple store and a shiny product for |
| 1:52.4 | someone to go or pat, but you know what I mean, you're trying to put yourself in a sea of other |
| 1:58.6 | people and you want to stand out. And I think this ties in nicely with the episode I spoke about |
| 2:04.1 | recently where I talked about competition being for losers and how, you know, we are very, by our |
| 2:11.8 | instincts, we are driven to think there's this zero sum game and we're competing with others and |
| 2:17.2 | I've got to make sure I outdo them and how am I going to, you know, beat the other people with |
| 2:22.9 | what's that's the way off of it that they don't. And I think this is the wrong way to think of it |
| 2:28.4 | with online dating because we're not really trying to attract everyone. We're trying to attract |
| 2:33.6 | someone great, which so I think a lot of people try and think about themselves is trying to |
| 2:39.0 | maximize the amount of people they might interest. And there's something to that thought, but |
| 2:47.4 | you're not really, you're not trying to please everyone, you're not trying to win over everyone |
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