What A Matchmaker Looks For When Matching Two People ft. Emily Holmes of LastFirst
We Met At Acme
Dear Media, Lindsey Metselaar
4.2 • 2.4K Ratings
🗓️ 28 June 2020
⏱️ 66 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, I virtually sit down with Emily Holmes, the founder of LastFirst matchmaking. We discuss what makes a match compatible, breaking out of your type, time limits for a first date, do opposites really attract, talking about exes on dates, match- ing people with opposite political views, and more. This episode starts with a solo where I dis- cuss what rules can be broken, dating app rules, what to do when one partner isn’t a local, and moving in with my boyfriend.
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| 0:00.0 | The following podcast is a deer media production. |
| 0:06.5 | Hey guys, welcome back to We Manga Rackney. I'm very excited for this week's episode. |
| 0:11.7 | We have an awesome matchmaker from last first, her name's Emily and she answers a lot of your |
| 0:18.4 | questions that you had submitted about how matchmaking works and all that good stuff. So I'm really |
| 0:23.6 | excited for you to listen and we've got tons of really great episodes coming up next week. |
| 0:29.8 | In the week after. So I'm just very excited for this summer of good episodes. |
| 0:35.6 | I wanted to start my solo as I usually do with questions that you submitted that you wanted me to |
| 0:41.5 | answer. Someone said to talk about gaslighting. Yeah, I mean gaslighting, it's funny because, |
| 0:48.9 | I mean, there's nothing funny about it and I'll tell you that right now. But I just don't feel like |
| 0:53.6 | anyone knew what gaslighting even was before, you know, the past few years. But it's a really |
| 1:00.3 | serious thing. Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group |
| 1:07.6 | covertly shows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group making them question their own |
| 1:13.6 | memory, perception or judgment, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes |
| 1:20.4 | including low self esteem. So when translated into a relationship, gaslighting is basically like, |
| 1:26.0 | for example, let's say your partner is interested in someone else and you say, I really feel like |
| 1:32.4 | you have this thing for, I don't know, for Bob. And they're like, I don't know what you're talking |
| 1:38.9 | about. You're crazy that there's no base to that. Like that kind of stuff, you know, and making |
| 1:45.6 | someone feel like insane for not being insane, that's gaslighting. And it's really fucked up. And |
| 1:52.4 | it needs to stop. And there are other examples, you know, but the cheating example is for me, |
| 1:58.0 | that's the most self explanatory. I think like also, you know, if someone, I don't know, maybe they're |
| 2:03.6 | like withholding sex from you and you're like, I don't know, I feel like you're not like, |
| 2:07.4 | you don't want to have sex with me. And they're like, what are you talking about? I've just been |
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