Welcome to The Man Talk Show. I'm Connor Beaton. And on this midweek mini episode, we are going to do a Q&A. So recently, I put on a little in a story on Instagram and said, hey, what questions can I answer for you? And I've picked out some of the questions. Thank you so much for everyone that asked a question. I got a few hundred of them.

So obviously I'm not going to go through all of them,

but I'm going to try and answer as many as I can

with as much value as I can without diving super, super deep into each of these topics

because each of these questions could be their own mini episode,

but I'm going to try and get through some of these.

So somebody asked, where is the line drawn between chasing someone and going after what you want?

Okay.

So there are a few aspects to this.

And I'm going to try and break this down to as tactical of an answer as I can.

One, you know you're chasing when you feel needy, when you feel anxious, when you have that

sort of like addictive quality to the conversation and to the interactions with the other person. So pursuing what you want

is a more direct and direction oriented experience. Okay. And I say I use the word experience very

specifically. We far too often, again, overvalue, over index the rational mind when what we need

to be overindexing, not over indexing, but actually indexing is our felt experience, is the

intuitional experience. So what does that mean? What that means is that you probably feel in your

body as a man when you are off kilter chasing after a woman. And I'm using a heterosexual example

here, but fill in whatever gender you want to make it applicable for you. So whenever you're going after someone, you feel in your body

a little bit more anxious when you're chasing. You feel like that constant, what if they don't

text me back? What if, like, how do I get their attention? How do I get them to go out with me? How do I

say the right thing? There is not an aloofness to pursuing what you want,

but a very clear, grounded sense of intentionality, of focus, and a clarity on what you want. So when you're

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