Welcome to the man talk show, Training for Men, Answers for Women. I'm Connor Beaton.

And today we're going to talk about conflict and how to deal with your problems. And I've been

getting a lot of questions lately on Instagram from men and women alike about how to better

support themselves in dealing with relational conflict, how to turn that conflict into connection,

and specifically within the context of a relationship. So I want to start off by taking a little bit

of a different approach today and really just outline one of the main issues that most of us have.

So most of us as men, when we have a problem in our life,

how we deal with that problem is by thinking about it, right? We have been taught that as men,

we are largely performance-based machines and that our highest value is in our ability to

think through problems, to, you know, get out of problems, to think

through conflict, to basically think our way through life. And it largely creates a void of

emotional data. So we, in order to do this, in order to have sort of critical analysis,

we largely disconnect from the

emotional data that is within us. And when we do that, it creates all sorts of problems

within our life. So I just want to put this out first and foremost, which is this idea of

stop thinking about your problems and start

feeling about your problems, right? Because it is very hard to think clearly when you're numbing out

or overwhelmed or disconnected from your emotional brain, from the emotional data that is being

produced within you.

Right.

So you wouldn't try and solve an equation not knowing half of it, right? That just wouldn't possibly work because you would never know what the full totality of

the equation is.

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