Welcome to the man talk show, Trini for Men Answers for Women. I'm Connor Beaton, and today we're

to talk a little bit about calling someone forward and not out. So recently I had a post on

Instagram about calling someone forward, whether it's your partner, whether it's another man in

your life, whether it's a family member or a friend. And this topic really seemed to resonate

with a lot of people. And I got a lot of questions about how do I do this? What does it sound like? Why is this

important? So I wanted to cover this on a mini episode. And the reason why this is important is for

many reasons, but this is actually one of the core ethos at the heart and soul of the Mantox

Alliance. So one of the things that I've noticed is that when we call someone forward,

when we call someone out, sorry, it is often about satiating our own ego, right? And almost never has the desired impact on the other person

or our relationship with them. So when it comes to friends, family, intimate relationships,

calling someone out can actually be kind of damaging to the relationship because we often

enter into a space of reactivity, of getting angry, of maybe saying some

hurtful things, or when we deliver the message and we call someone out, we are often triggering

their ego, right? We are triggering their defense mechanisms. We're triggering the part of them

that wants to go on the attack or

defend themselves. So when we call someone out, it almost never works in the way that we want.

And not only that, we often deploy shame, guilt, aggression, or anger to convey our message.

So we are often when we're calling somebody out in the position of being reactive.

We're in the position of righteousness.

Or we blind ourselves from our own actions and behaviors all because we are assuming the position of being one up or superior in some way, shape, or forward.

So knowing that calling someone out isn't going to work, what do we do?

And this is interesting because from all the work that I've done with a lot of men,

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