Hey guys, this is my leak and this is my podcast.

It's been a while since I've gotten an email that seemed like it was one question on the surface, but after I really spent some time with it, I found that there was just so much more there.

And I remember back in the day when I would get lots of questions from you and I would take one question and I have my

Highlighters I have my pencils I'm looping and connecting and that's what I did again with this question here.

As I started reading it, there were so many things that came up for me and I'm going to share them here today.

I have a lot of notes and very few concrete answers.

If anything, my guess is that you'll walk away with something to think about.

This may not be your story, but I know this is a topic that has affected a lot of people,

so sit back, relax, and let's break this down. Here is the email.

My leak I've been following you for a few years and really value your insight.

I especially enjoy that you seem to have a very fair non-judgmental approach, which is why I'm sending you this question.

She says, this is the short story.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on if it's possible to change yourself before you're ready and what

self-forgiveness looks like as the other woman. How do I stand up and believe in more

for myself in all areas of life, though it's hard to believe I deserve more.

And then she says, this is the long story.

I am reeling from being the other woman. the long whirlwind

whirlwind with the man I loved when I was a year-long whirlwind

with the man I loved when I was younger.

He loved me too, and we both friend- zoned each other until we reconnected and it all

came flooding back and this time without the pretenses. It is over now and I'm not sure how to move on or feel about myself.

I can't even tell most of my friends because the way some of them rag women like this.

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