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Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Valentines Day Tactics By A Narcissist

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 14 February 2023

⏱️ 18 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

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Summary

So today is Valentine's Day, and unfortunately, this can be a difficult day for those who have suffered from narcissistic abuse. While this day is meant to celebrate love, a narcissist can use it as a tool to hurt and manipulate. In this episode, I'll share strategies to help you manage the emotions you may experience on valentines day, advice on healing post-narcissistic trauma, and ways to love yourself on this special day. Also, you may have noticed a slight change in the podcast title. I have decided to include the word "abuse" in the title of the podcast again since it cannot be changed that we have suffered abuse. However, we can work on healing from the trauma caused by the abuse. By acknowledging that we have been abused and not shying away from that word, we can make progress in our trauma recovery.

What you will learn in this episode:

  • The strategies a narcissist may employ to manipulate or control you on Valentine's Day.
  • How to protect yourself on Valentine's Day and resist narcissistic abuse
  • What you can do to love yourself and practice self-care

On these special days of the year, such as valentines day, the narcissist can disappear, and this happened to me. I’ll share my story of how my partner disappeared before we were supposed to go on an exciting camping trip with my children. I’ll discuss how my ex used this opportunity to ruin a holiday to exert control over me and my children, and how you can avoid the same thing happening to you. On Valentine’s day especially, believing that you are lovable can be difficult, but it is important to remember how special and unique you are. So today I want you to practice self-care and do something that makes you feel good. Focus on the positive aspects of yourself, and show yourself some kindness. Remind yourself that you are worthy of love and that you deserve to be celebrated on this special day.

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0:00.0

Welcome to the narcissistic abuse and trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline

0:08.2

Strawson and I'll be sharing with you awareness, understanding and education about the devastating

0:15.6

effects of narcissistic abuse. I've been exactly where you are right now. And this podcast is a beacon of hope

0:23.1

for you to know that you are believed, you are seen, you are heard and you are not alone. And my hope

0:30.9

for listening to the podcast is it will help you move from post-traumatic stress to post-traumatic growth after the trauma of narcissistic abuse

0:40.1

because it is possible. You are enough and you deserve to thrive. A massive warm welcome to the

0:50.4

narcissistic abuse and trauma recovery podcast.

0:59.4

You'll notice a little tweak of the title of the podcast because I've brought back in using the word abuse.

1:00.9

So initially my podcast started with narcissistic abuse recovery, then I changed it to trauma.

1:06.6

And now I'm bringing it back to both because you have been abused by a narcissist.

1:12.4

What you hold in your body is trauma. Trauma is our perception of things that have happened to

1:19.4

us that stay within us. So the narcissist is triggering our own inner child wounds of not

1:26.3

feeling good enough, not feeling worthy

1:28.2

or lovable, or that we don't matter. That is the trauma that we have. That is what we can work on.

1:35.3

We can't ever change the abuse, which is why often I talk about narcissistic trauma,

1:40.8

because that is what we have inside of us because of the experiences outside of us

1:47.1

with the narcissist, the abuse. So I wanted to incorporate them both into the title

1:52.3

so that just those tweaks of words means that sometimes we get stuck in this abuse

1:57.4

mentality and what you hold is trauma, you can work on healing that.

2:02.4

It's so important for you to know that.

2:04.7

And of course, my free group on Facebook, my free support group, which is just incredible,

2:10.0

we check every single profile that tries to join, every single one, because we know that

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