Valentine & The Controlling Religious Abuser | Domestic Violence & Narcissist Abuse

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4.8 • 740 Ratings

🗓️ 27 October 2025

⏱️ 60 minutes

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In this gripping episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Valentine bravely recounts her experience of being married to a controlling religious abuser. Valentine met her husband at church and was initially attracted by his spirituality. However, Valentine eventually found out that he was only spiritual when it was convenient for him. Religion was a device to control Valentine's mind, her body, her life, and the lives of her children. It's a story of control, divorce, religious abuse, conditioning, isolation, jealousy, sexual abuse, sexual assault, sexual coercion, intergenerational trauma, ptsd, financial abuse, putdowns, nitpicking, circular conversations, neglect, dismissiveness, self worth, silent treatments, rage, autonomy, circular conversations, and parental alienation. *** CONTENT WARNING - We mention sexual abuse, sexual assault, and sexual coercion in this episode. *** If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or send us an email at [email protected] PODCAST RECOMMENDATIONS: Perfect Prey With Dr. Christine Cocchiola | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Covert Narcissism Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bitch is a Bad Word | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ When Dating Hurts Podcast | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you or someone you know are experiencing abuse, you are not alone. DomesticShelters.org offers an extensive library of articles and resources that can help you make sense of what you're experiencing, connect you with local resources and find ways to heal and move forward. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.domesticshelters.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to access this free resource. If you need help moving due to domestic violence, Shelter Movers may be able to help you. They operate by referral. Clients may be referred by any person of authority (social worker, doctor, police, crisis counselor, teacher, etc.) or public agency (shelter, hospital, school, workplace, place of worship, sexual assault centre, etc.). To reach them, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our new Community Social Network at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://community.narcissistapocalypse.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Instagram Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/narcissistapocalypse⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Join our Youtube Channel at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpTIgjTqVJa4caNWMIAJllA⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, we talk with an abuse survivor named Valentine,
0:07.7	and Valentine was married to a controlling religious abuser.
0:11.1	It's a story of conditioning, isolation, jealousy, sexual abuse, and parental alienation.
0:20.5	Music abuse and parental alienation. Welcome to Narcissist Apocalypse, everyone.
0:42.7	I am Brandon Chadwick, and with me today, we have Valentine.
0:47.9	How are you?
0:49.3	I'm good. I'm good. How are you?
0:51.4	I am doing well. Thank you for asking. And thank you for being here. And if you want to be a guest like Valentine is today, I'm good. How are you? I am doing well. Thank you for asking and thank you for being here.
0:55.6	And if you want to be a guest like Valentine is today, please do go to our website at
0:59.8	Narcissistapocalypse.com and click on the guest form button at the top of the page. There you can read
1:05.5	all of our instructions and please read them all and either send us an email at Narcissistapocalypse
1:10.1	at gmail.com
1:11.4	or fill out our guest form and press to submit button and please do send it in the format
1:16.2	that we ask for.
1:17.5	And we do have a content warning for this episode as we do mention sexual abuse,
1:22.2	sexual assault, and sexual coercion in this episode.
1:25.4	So that is your content warning for today. And today you're
1:28.5	going to hear Valentine's story. And Valentine was conditioned to accept the way her husband was
1:33.6	for a very long time. Jealousy, control, put downs, isolation. Valentine was living in his world,
1:41.6	the abuser's world, in his world ruled all.
1:45.7	And I know Valentine is going to validate many of your experiences today.
1:50.1	So a big thank you to Valentine for being here today once again.
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