Looking for and successfully finding love is not easy for most people. Online dating has made it a little

easier, but knowing what to look for in a partner is something many people still struggle with in the modern dating world. In this episode, we talk with psychologist

Tai Tishiro, who gives advice and tips on how to use psychological science to find lasting love,

showing us that using our heads and not just our hearts can lead to our happily ever after. I'm Audrey Hamilton,

and this is speaking of psychology. Psychologist Tai Tishiro is an author and researcher who studies the psychology of relationships.

Why some relationships last and others don't.

His work has been published in top-tier academic journals, including the American Psychological Association's flagship journal American Psychologist.

He is also author of the book, The Science of Happily Ever After.

Welcome, Dr. Tashiro.

Well, thanks for having me.

We're often told to follow our hearts when we're looking for love. Is that really the best advice,

or is there a better way to go about it?

Well, that's a great question. I don't think there's anything wrong with following your heart. Love's primarily an emotional thing,

and I think we can overthink it if we're not careful, so we don't want to kill the romance or

kill the heart part of it with the head. But I do think that people could probably benefit from using

their head just a little bit more when it comes to really one of the most important decisions they'll make,

which is who they choose to be with for the rest of their life.

Yeah.

Can you talk about how their head needs to become involved in finding the right person?

Sure. Yeah. Well, I think it's hard to get your head involved when you're with a new person.

When we fall in that passionate love, we have the butterflies in the stomach and your head spinning, it's really hard to

be rational and measured about things and have good foresight. I think actually in-between relationships

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