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Coming to headphones near you on can agree not our best work. We'll be hosting thoughtful conversations with culture's most important figures.

Talk about genius.

Talk about generational talent.

Coming to headphones near you on April 17th with a first guest you won't want to miss.

Available wherever you get your podcasts.

Hello and welcome to how to the show where listeners write to us with their most personal questions

and then we find the perfect person to give us advice.

I'm Carvel Wallace.

And I'm Courtney Martin.

It's funny, by the time we put an episode out, the team and I have spent a considerable amount of time, either with the listener or actively working on helping them solve a problem.

So we get kind of invested, you know?

But the episode often ends with

them getting the advice and just going back into the world to try it. Every once in a while we'll get an update. But more often than that, like this situation is like not cut and dry. You can't really give an update. You can't be like, oh, I did learn how to trust myself. Like it's a little bit more squishy than that. And so a lot of times

we're just left wondering, like, did this actually work? And this is why it's exciting to hear that

you're actually going to sit down with a listener and talk about their experience. That's right.

So last winter, we published an episode called How to Lose Your Virginity at 43. Obviously,

I myself, and I'm sure a lot of listeners got highly invested in this one. Yes. Elizabeth, the listener for that episode, emailed us an update. I could not resist sitting down with her in debriefing. I'm so excited to hear this. So what we're going to do right now is we're going to hear that conversation. And then after that, we're going to dip into the mailbag and place some advice that you guys sent us.

And we're going to get to all of it right after this break.

Okay. Elizabeth, you were on the show back earlier this year, and your note was one of the best ones we've seen.

Can you remind listeners of your original question?

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