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Sustainable Minimalists

Unpaid Labor And Gendered Work

Sustainable Minimalists

Bleav + Stephanie Seferian

Kids & Family, Leisure, Parenting, Home & Garden

4.81.1K Ratings

🗓️ 20 February 2024

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

Reminder to my fellow moms: You don't have to do it all.  Studies have shown for decades that women in heterosexual partnerships are responsible for the "invisible labor" at home. Not surprisingly, carrying the lion's share of the burden has oversized impacts on women's mental health. The solution sounds simple: Divvying up domestic responsibilities decreases resentment and increases family cohesion. But how do we best encourage our partners and children to participate in the work of the home for the long haul? It's not gendered work; it's the work of the family and all should contribute. On today's show Lori Sugarman-Li encourages us to release the need to do everything; she also calls on our partners and children to step up and participate in the essential - yet sadly unpaid! - work of the home. Here's a preview: [6:30] Semi-disturbing stats re: impacts of inequitable unpaid labor on women's wellness [9:00] Defining family flow: How can we best change a family's flow if the flow isn't working for everyone? [17:00] They aren't chores! Here's why we must change both the language and the energy around "chores" [19:00] Full task ownership versus division of labor: Which provides long-term balance? [30:00] Words of encouragement for the default (ahem ... 'she-fault') parents, plus: cycle breaking is in our hands   Resources mentioned: Fair Play Pre-order Our Home: The Love, Work, and Heart of Family Lori on Instagram   This show is listener-supported. Thank you for supporting! Join our (free!) Facebook community here. Find your tribe. Sustainable Minimalists are on Facebook, Instagram + Youtube @sustainableminimalists Say hello! MamaMinimalistBoston@gmail.com.

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0:00.0

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1:00.6

Well, hello and welcome back.

1:04.0

My name is Stephanie Safarian, and you're listening to episode 444,

1:09.0

that, by the way, is my favorite number, 444,

1:11.0

of sustainable minimalists.

1:13.4

This is a show about intentional and eco-friendly minimalist living.

1:18.5

It is 2024, surprised to know on, and yet still, even though we're in 2024 traditional gender norms

1:26.8

remain in many of our households and so on today's show we're hoping to change that.

1:34.2

Today's show is about teaching our children what we want them to know about partnership

1:40.6

so that they can grow up and start their own homes with equality in mind.

1:46.7

That unpaid labor, also known as housework, tends to, at least in this this household still be the woman's job the

1:55.7

woman's work but it doesn't need to be so today my guest is Lori Sugarman Lee

2:01.1

she is a certified fair plate facilitator. She's a family coach and she's also the author of the new children's book coming out soon. It's called Our Home, The Love, Work, and heart of family.

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