You're going to be. Welcome to the waves, Slate's podcast about gender, feminism and the list of boys names written

on the girls bathroom wall.

Every episode you get a new pair of women to talk about the things we can't get off our minds.

And today you've got me Heather Schwadell, a staff writer at Slate.

And me Rebecca Onion, a senior editor for Slate.

This week we're discussing a controversial long-form article that appears on the

cover of the latest issue of New York

magazine under the headline, cancelled at 17. Written by Elizabeth Wheel. It's about a

high school student named Diego who gets quote-unquote canceled for showing a nude photo of his then girlfriend

to some other kids and everything that comes after that. And the thing that

really fascinated me about the story initially is the dynamics of it are just the exact opposite of what I would have

expected them to be during my own high school years in the 2000s. Then it was

unimaginable that the whole school would stand up for Fiona, Diego's ex, and ostracized

Diego.

But that's what happens in this story.

And that's progress.

progress.

But is it though?

Rebecca, why did you want to talk about this?

I thought the way that this was written was extremely fascinating.

It's designed to make the reader feel sympathy

for this guy who did something that is very wrong,

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