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You ever wonder why we have so many seemingly irrational fears, doubts, inhibitions to obviously harmless activities.

Here's why.

One time, a long time ago, one of your relatives, one of your ancestors, was walking along

and came upon this cave, and out of the cave came a tiger, and that tiger mauled one of

your ancestors and they died.

Well, that story was passed down and down and down by your ancestors. So now, even to this

day, every time you or any one of your ancestors goes by a cave, you run like hell. Even though

in a modern urban society, there are no more tigers in a cave. But because that story has been

passed down, you still feel the same fear, even though the reality is now

irrational. And what happens is we start associating one activity with another. So if there has

ever been a circumstance or situation in your past where it made you feel small or made you feel

rejected or you felt some emotional pain, that becomes a new cave.

And now you start judging and comparing

every other experience against that one.

So that ends up, when it isn't happening

is you start collecting all these cave references

in your mind.

A made me feel like X and B looks like A,

so it's bound to make me feel like X too so I best just run

and you start collecting these things that you become irrationally afraid about.

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