Every now and then, I'll pick up a book and say, why didn't I get this 10 years earlier?

And the book was by Jim Burns, and it was How to Parent Your Adult Children.

And so I asked Jim, would you come and share about parenting adult kids?

And thank God he said yes, and that's today.

Welcome to this edition of Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram.

Our mission is to inspire Christians to be genuine followers of Jesus and to empower them to be active disciple makers in our world.

Thanks for joining us as we begin to wind down our insightful series on invited guests,

recognizing and resisting the attacks on your family. And as Chip Tees today, he'll sit down with

his friend Jim Burns, author of the book, Doing Life with Your Adult Children. For these last two

programs, they'll walk through six vital principles that parents must embrace as their kids become adults.

So if you're ready, here's Chip and Jim Burns to dive right into this meaningful discussion.

We've gotten so many letters and emails about this topic. And I thought, we've got to help people,

but I've got enough issues with my adult children. I wanted to come to an expert. So thought, we've got to help people, but I've got enough issues with my adult

children. I wanted to come to an expert. So, Jim, you've got a number of principles that we've

taken what we felt like were the top six that we hear from our audience. And I would just like you to

go over those and let's just have a conversation to help the people that are, I think,

having at best challenges and at worst some real hard times. The more we think about it as our kids get to be adults, they're running parallel journeys. We don't know what we're doing as a parent of an adult child because we've never done that before. And they don't know what they're doing because they've never been an adult before. So the first principle is your role as a parent has to

change. In fact, I tell parents, you're fired. Not as a parent, but you're fired as a day-to-day parent

because you've invested two decades of your life pretty much in control and focusing on those kids,

and now they're leaving. And so what you've got to do is actually help them leave by giving

them the passport to adulthood. And I don't think that's easy for them sometimes, and I know it's not

easy for us, especially if they're not making those great decisions. I know for me, I was an old

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