Understanding Three Sources of Anger (and why the source matters) [180]

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Spiritual, Narcissism, Self-improvement, Marriage, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Christian, Divorce, Christianity, Education

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🗓️ 19 July 2022

⏱️ 45 minutes

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Summary

What do love, hate, and pain have in common? Believe it or not: Being super ticked off. Anger. I’m serious as a heart attack. Anger stems from either love, hate, or pain. Which means there are some pretty legitimate and useful reasons to be mad. As well as some that are just nasty or unhelpful. So if you’ve been taught that anger is ungodly, wrong, or always a sign of bitterness, I suggest two things: 1. Pull out the example of Jesus crafting a homemade whip and going mad dog in the temple. He dealt out the beatdown of the season. Ask people what they think of that anger. Was he just trying to encourage all those sleazy hawkers while flipping their tables over, tossing their money around, and driving their animals away? Maybe he should’ve prayed instead of taking his zeal to the streets? 2. Listen to this episode. More motivation below. The can’t-miss parts of this anger breakdown: - Three analogies: A very bad macaroni-and cheese analogy, a better one about road rage, and a great one about puking. - Three sources: An explanation of how love, hate, and pain trigger anger. - Three examples: Honestly, I give a buttload of examples. It’s the deal of the century. Listening = tons of free drama-filled examples. Not as squeal-worthy as Jesus giving what for, but still muy bien. - Three reasons: Why I WANT TO FEEL ANGRY (again, I give more than three reasons, but there’s no way I’m messing with the pattern I’ve created). - Why anger from love is open but anger from hate is hidden and destructive (I ruined the pattern. Dang it.). - My living nightmare. A dream that haunted me for years before becoming reality. - Three drivers: How anger moves from a neutral emotion to meaning, and guides everything we do. (Eeeeh! We’re back to threes!) Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/180 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free
0:10.2	podcast, a support resource for women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden
0:16.6	emotional and spiritual abuse.
0:21.6	Welcome to episode 180 of the Flying Free Podcast.
0:27.0	Today I want to share some of my thoughts about anger.
0:31.0	I think anger gets a bad rap sometimes.
0:35.0	Like it's the emotion that's always bad.
0:38.0	And if you feel anger in your body, then you must be a bad person.
0:42.0	But I think anger has three different sources or
0:46.7	roots. One type of anger has a root of love, believe it or not, this is what I
0:52.3	believe. I think the Bible talks about this. The second type of
0:56.0	anger has a root of hate and then a third type of anger comes from the root of pain and these three different
1:04.7	types of anger from these three different sources create three very
1:08.8	different results for us and for the people around us.
1:13.1	Now in general, in all types of anger,
1:16.3	we feel that anger in our bodies,
1:19.4	because it's an emotion,
1:21.5	when we have a thought or a belief that something or someone should be different
1:28.7	from what it is.
1:30.9	So anger that has the root of love believes that things should be different so the world can be a better place for everyone.
1:39.0	Anger that has the root of hate believes that things should be different so I can have what I want
1:45.8	when I want it and anyone in the way of my agenda to serve myself must be annihilated.
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