Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth many years ago and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life

lessons and revelations. I believe in casual over clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-help doesn't have to be so complicated.

I don't know if you can actually hear the light rain in the background. It's one of my most favorite calming meditative sounds just light drizzle of

rain tapping on window cells also, the other sound that I can't get enough of, that actually calms me,

and it's more of an aggressive sound, is the throaty exhaust on my motorcycle.

You also hear the revving of 911 Portia's.

There's a distinct sound to that engine

that, I don't know, it just calms my body and I love it. Anyway I want to

read you something because this episode is not about throaty exhaust pipes or rain. It's about

attraction and why it's important for us to

re-evaluate attraction, to explore it, to look for patterns, right, to investigate.

I'm working on a new book titled, Break Through Your Break Up. It was previously titled You Dodge the Bullitt

and they kind of had a problem with the word bullets which I understand and so this book is

I was gonna say it's a survival guide, but it's not a survival guide. It's a thriving guide for people going through an expired relationship.

And I'm writing about examining the black box, you know, once the plane goes down and after there's been some healing, some distance, returning to the crash.

Not literally, I'm not talking about going to your ex's house and knocking on doors. That's what I'm talking about.

Mentally emotionally returning to the crash. Not playing ship back so it's traumatic, examining the black box why did the plane

go down and also approaching it from what was my part in Not, why did it go down?

What was their part in this?

Because if you do that, it's really easy to fall into victim mode

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