Welcome to the Marriage Day podcast. I'm Jimmy Evans. This is my wife, Karen. I'm going

to do a teaching today on this podcast talking about the secret of ultimate sexual fulfillment.

Very important thing that we're talking about for every marriage. We have a couple of questions

from viewers that Karen were going to answer before we go to the teaching. I think you

have the first one. I do. My husband was sexually abused as a child and was raised

by a single mother. Now that we are married, I'm definitely the more sexual one and there

are so many times when I get shut down trying to initiate sex because he is not in the mood.

How do I love him and not feel so rejected at the same time? We're going to feel rejected.

I mean, there's just no doubt about it. I want to say several things and that is, you know,

that there are about 30% of women who are more sexual than their husbands. It doesn't

matter. You meet each other's needs. And so it doesn't mean that every single time your

spouse is in the mood, you have to have sex with them. But it means you're committed

to meeting their sexual needs. And most of the time when they have a need, you're going

to meet that need with a good attitude. This is a situation where first of all, she says

he was sexually abused as a child. Well, that's a big deal. If you have not dealt with

that sexual abuse, it's going to affect you for the rest of your life. And so, and he's

manifesting this through his sexuality. If he was abused by a man or a woman, there

is some passive aggressive behavior going on here, I believe, to where he's telling her

no, basically punishing her for whatever happened to him before. You need to go to your husband

needs to go to counseling, you need to go with him and talk about what happened to him

for giving the person who did it to him. Next steps and sexual healing, very, very important.

You're going to be rejected. I don't know how to tell you to love him without feeling

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