UFYB 218: New Year’s Resolutions are Perfectionist Fantasies: A Conversation with Victoria Myers of the Nourishing Women Podcast
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.6K Ratings
🗓️ 30 December 2021
⏱️ 49 minutes
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Summary
Have you ever achieved a goal in the hopes that it would make you feel more confident and less anxious, only to find yourself a week later, asking, “uuh…now what?” If you’re expecting your New Year’s resolutions (or any other achievements) to change how you feel about yourself, you are misunderstanding how your brain works and setting yourself up for disappointment.
In this episode, Victoria Myers of the Nourishing Women Podcast joins me to discuss why you have to address the thoughts behind your resolutions if you want to create a new relationship with yourself. This is required listening for any of you who are considering setting big goals in 2022!
Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/218
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, |
| 0:14.0 | and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your |
| 0:19.3 | host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile. |
| 0:26.3 | All right, my chickens. It's almost New Year's Eve. 2021 is almost over, even though most |
| 0:34.8 | of us have not recovered from 2020 yet or possibly 2019. Tomorrow is New Year's Eve. |
| 0:40.8 | If you're listening to this episode the day it comes out. And here's the thing. This time |
| 0:46.9 | of year, you might expect a life coach to talk a lot about how to set and achieve an amazing |
| 0:54.4 | resolution and how you can use thoughtwork to make sure you finally do lose those 20 pounds |
| 1:00.6 | or go to the gym five times a week or whatever. Now, anything I teach you can use to change |
| 1:07.0 | your habits, but I am not a big fan of New Year's resolutions. I really don't think that |
| 1:13.6 | the way they're mostly done is useful. And if you've been a listener of the podcast for |
| 1:17.8 | a while, you may not be surprised to hear that actually I think most New Year's resolutions |
| 1:22.2 | are not really resolutions at all because I don't think that we are actually most of the |
| 1:27.0 | time resolved to do them or resolute about doing them or any other version of the word |
| 1:34.1 | that is the root of resolution. We mostly are just pretending that we're going to do a thing |
| 1:40.2 | that we pretend every year that we're going to do because it's always fun to dream about |
| 1:45.1 | things that future you is going to do. Even when you know you probably won't do it. In |
| 1:52.5 | other words, New Year's resolutions are often perfectionist fantasies. If you have listened |
| 1:57.4 | to that episode of the podcast, that term is going to be familiar. If you haven't, that's |
| 2:01.4 | fine because in this episode, I am sharing a conversation I had with Victoria Myers. |
| 2:07.3 | A couple of years ago on the Nourishing Woman podcast, where we talk all about how and |
| 2:12.4 | why most New Year's resolutions are perfectionist fantasies and what that means. What is the |
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