I am Sarah Jane Case, and this is Anya Graham and Coffee.

Hello and welcome to Anya Graham and Coffee, the podcast.

I'm your host, Sarah Jane Case, and I am so happy to have coffee with you today.

Today, I'm continuing our series going through each Anya Graham type in detail.

I'll run through a description of that type, their motivations, fears,

world view, and more. I'll also give you a common mistypes as well.

Today, we are discussing type 2, the helper. So the motivation for the helper is to be loved

and liked. Their major fear is not being lovable. Type 2's are helpful, generous, warm, and loving.

They learn somewhere along the way that love is earned through what we do for other people.

They tend to see the world as a sea of emotional temperatures,

picking up the energy that people are sharing and adjusting their own behavior to meet the

needs they perceive in the room. The impulse to serve from a two isn't necessarily conscious.

In fact, to most twos, it's second nature and seems like the most natural thing in the world

to step in and meet the need of someone, especially someone they don't know very well.

Twos are in the feeling or shame triad, which means they spend a lot of time aware of how they are

being perceived. It's important for type 2's to be perceived as loving, warm, and giving.

To struggle with resentment. This can happen because of a lack of boundaries being set,

sometimes from overgiving without receiving in return, and not even communicating that maybe

they have needs. Sometimes this resentment happens because they expect others to love in the

way that they do. Type 2's anticipate the needs of the people they care about and the people

around. A lot of other numbers don't do that. For a lot of times twos are spending a lot of energy

giving and are on the back end not receiving that energetic match, which can lead to resentment

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