Welcome to the Daily Dad podcast where we provide one lesson every single day to help you with your most important job, being a parent.

I'm Ryan Holiday, and I draw these lessons from ancient philosophy, modern psychology, practical wisdom, and insights

from parents just like you all over the world. Thank you for listening, and we hope this

helps. Try to get to this place. The thing about parenting is that it's always thrusting us into situations we have to deal with.

We have to solve. We have to correct. We have to stop.

Our kids aren't listening. Our kid did something dangerous.

Our kids fail the class. Our kids are drifting in a direction that worries us.

Of course, there are some parents who are oblivious to all this just generally hands off. but the rest of us who are just doing the best we can, we struggle with these situations. We don't want to yell, but that's what we end up doing. We want to teach and instruct, but it somehow devolves into a power struggle. We fail to reach them. We fail to teach them. In her wonderful book, Good Inside, which I've been raving about

and you can grab at the painted porch, the great Dr. Becky Kennedy writes that we have to try

to move from a place of what's wrong with my child and can you fix them to what is my child

struggling with and what's my role in helping them. And it's also important, she says,

as we find ourselves in these situations, is to try to ask

ourselves also, what's coming up for me about this situation? As we've said before, our kids aren't

trying to give us a hard time. They're having a hard time. And by the way, so are we. And when we

understand this, when we step back and see it this way, we can be patient

with them and with ourselves. We can remember that they are good inside, and so are we. If we can see

that they're struggling as opposed to screwed up or wrong or doing something bad, we'll have an easier

time helping them get back on the path. Our role will be clearer and there will be less conflict. We'll all get along

better. We'll all do better together. I think there's very few of us, especially those of us who have

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