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TILT Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

TPP 403: The Connection Between Differently Wired Kids and Substance Use, with Brenda Zane

TILT Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

Debbie Reber

Education, Parenting, Kids & Family

4.8983 Ratings

🗓️ 10 September 2024

⏱️ 52 minutes

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Summary

Just as technology evolves rapidly, so too do the ways drugs are consumed. For parents, it can be challenging to recognize when our kids are using, especially since many products on the market now resemble harmless school supplies or candy. And then if we find our kids are engaging in drug use, how do we even begin to navigate that? That’s what we’re going to explore today with my guest Brenda Zane, whose oldest son struggled with an addiction to a high-risk lifestyle and illicit drugs for over five years. After nearly losing him to two fentanyl overdoses, Brenda left her marketing career to serve other families dealing with the fear, confusion, and feelings of helplessness of having a child who’s misusing drugs or alcohol, becoming a family advocate and co-founding the nonprofit organization Hopestream Community, where she serves parents of teens and young adults who struggle with substance misuse and mental health challenges. This is such a powerful conversation and one I truly recommend all parents to listen to, no matter the age of their children, as it’s important to understand the landscape for drug access and use in the lives of today’s kids. During this episode, Brenda and I talked about the importance of open communication and understanding the reasons behind drug use, the dangers of high-potency THC products in younger users, and the challenges parents face when their teenagers experiment with substances, as well as explore the idea that there is a difference between “typical experimentation” and problematic use when talking about marijuana. I know that this can be one of those uncomfortable topics that many of us would rather avoid thinking about, especially if we have a history of substance abuse in our families, but it’s important for our kids' safety that we do the research and create spaces for these conversations to be had at home. One last thing, please know that this episode contains references to drug abuse, overdosing, and mental health issues. So do what you need to do to take care of yourself if these are triggering themes for you. About Brenda Zane Brenda Zane is a family advocate and co-founder of the nonprofit organization Hopestream Community. She’s passionate about serving parents of teens and young adults who struggle with substance misuse and mental health challenges. Brenda’s oldest son struggled with an addiction to a high-risk lifestyle and illicit drugs for over five years. After nearly losing him to multiple fentanyl overdoses, Brenda left her marketing career to serve other families dealing with the fear, confusion, and feelings of helplessness of having a child who’s misusing drugs or alcohol. You can hear Brenda weekly on the Hopestream podcast. Things you'll learn How today’s marijuana is significantly more potent than traditional marijuana and how that can impact a developing adolescent brain Why parents need to stay informed about new drug delivery methods, such as vape pens and edibles, to effectively address drug use in their children What some of the reasons behind drug use are, including coping with social anxiety or seeking acceptance How leveraging a child's strengths in positive activities can help redirect their focus and prevent problematic drug use Why it’s critical that parents create a safe space for teenagers to talk about their experiences and the reasons behind their substance use When to seek support from therapists and communities that provide resources and guidance for parents navigating these challenges Resources mentioned: Hope Stream Community website Hope Stream Community on Instagram Hope Stream Podcast Worried Sick: A compassionate Guide for Parents of Teens or Young Adults Misusing substances (free ebook) HINDSIGHT: Three Things I Wish I Knew When My Son was Misusing Substances (free ebook) The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence by Jessica Lahey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Have a little one's birthday coming up.

0:02.0

Fat Brain Toys has unique age-appropriate gifts that really stand out.

0:06.5

For over 21 years, this family-run business from Omaha, Nebraska

0:10.0

has been creating toys that entertain and educate. They offer child-driven play experiences that keep both

0:15.8

the mind and the body active with options to shop by age or to use their gift-bot for recommendations.

0:22.0

Like the Plip Kit, perfect for the young

0:24.1

builder, architect, or a maker who can use the flexible pieces to create cool

0:28.0

patterns and designs or my personal favorite, Mr. Bendy, a bendable figure with

0:32.4

poseable arms, legs, eyes, and wax bendy sticks that

0:36.0

offer a fun way for kids to explore social and emotional learning.

0:39.9

These durable screen-free toys promote open-ended play perfect for creative

0:44.2

differently wired kids. I also love the story of how Fat Brain Toys

0:48.0

started. Mark Carson built the company after his 10-year-old son Adam couldn't find magnetic building toys online.

0:54.9

And the rest, as they say, is history.

0:57.4

Today their website even features a resource center to help parents of neural divergent and

1:01.2

disabled kids find the best toys for their needs.

1:04.4

Go to W.W. fatbrain toys.com slash tilt to get 10% off all the items in the

1:10.7

tilt collection when you use the code tilt at

1:13.1

checkout and find out for yourself why Fat Brain Toys is a smarter way to play.

1:17.3

And what we're seeing with kids, especially with kids who struggle with social anxiety, depression, just being different.

1:26.7

Like my son, he was just different and he said the only time I feel normal is when I'm high.

1:51.8

He's like the first time I tried it I was like, oh, this is what it's like to not have my brain constantly running, not ruminating. I'm able to slow down, like time has slowed down, it feels amazing, which is why I say the drugs are not the problem, they're the solution. And so if we can reframe our thinking around that you can start to

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