meta_pixel
Tapesearch Logo
Log in
TILT Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

TPP 365: Dr. Alok Kanojia Explains How to Raise Healthy Gamers

TILT Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

Debbie Reber

Education, Parenting, Kids & Family

4.8983 Ratings

🗓️ 12 March 2024

⏱️ 48 minutes

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

I married a gamer and my 19-year-old is also a gamer, so I’m no stranger to the reality of video games being a significant part of daily life. But where’s the line between healthy gaming and unhealthy gaming? How much gaming is too much? And when does a gaming habit evolve into gaming addiction? These are some of the questions regarding screen time that I hear from many parents, and they highlight some of the ongoing challenges families face in raising children who can be responsible tech users and whose screen use and gaming doesn’t interfere with their lives in a way that can be harmful or keep them stuck. So when I learned of the new book How to Raise a Healthy Gamer: End Power Struggles, Break Bad Screen Habits, and Transform Your Relationship with Your Kids by Dr. Alok Kanojia, I knew I wanted to invite him onto the show to talk about all things gaming with us. In this conversation, we talked about how we as parents can know whether our child is addicted to video games or not, why screen time limits and restricting gaming time are at odds with the goal of raising a healthy gamer, and how to shift to a holistic approach that considers overall well-being and goal-setting. We also talked about why children with ADHD are more susceptible to addictive behaviors surrounding gaming and how to raise healthy gamers from a young age. A packed episode that is a must-listen for any parenting whose child interacts with online or video games. Good, good stuff. About Dr. Alok Kanojia Dr. Alok Kanojia is a Harvard-trained psychiatrist specializing in the intersection of technology x mental health. Also known as ”Dr. K” to millions of people on the internet, Dr.Kanojia is the cofounder of Healthy Gamer, a mental health platform that serves the digital generation. He has inspired millions of people with online content while overseeing the mental health coaching of thousands of young people. He is widely regarded as the foremost expert on video game addiction and most prominent mental health authority for young people. When he’s offline, he’s usually traveling, gardening, or grilling with his family. Things you'll learn: How to determine if your child has a gaming addiction, and why it's important to trust your instincts Why screen time limits and carrot and stick approaches surrounding a child’s gaming is at odds with the goal of raising a healthy gamer Why children with ADHD are more susceptible to addictive behaviors surrounding gaming The importance of engaging in open and non-judgmental communication with your child about their gaming habits and the impact it has on their life How to shift to a holistic approach that considers overall well-being and goal-setting Ideas for proactively creating healthy gaming habits with younger children Resources mentioned: Healthy Gamer website How to Raise a Healthy Gamer: End Power Struggles, Break Bad Screen Habits, and Transform Your Relationship with Your Kids by Dr. Alok Kanojia Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World by Dr. Devorah Heitner Dr. Devorah Heitner on Parenting Kids Growing Up in Public (Tilt Parenting Podcast) Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World by Dr. Devorah Heitner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0

If you're listening to this podcast, it's probably because a child you love and care for is differently wired.

0:07.0

Are they also struggling in their current educational setting, seen only for what they're doing wrong, while longing for positive relationships with peers and others?

0:15.6

Envision a world where your child's unique abilities are not just recognized but celebrated.

0:21.0

A world where they can connect with others and their true potential is seen and

0:24.9

appreciated. The Strength-based Assessment Lab's mission is to build a world for your child just

0:30.7

like that. Through its innovative approach that aims to empower students, families, educators, and professionals

0:36.3

to create positive, effective, and collaborative learning experiences.

0:40.2

Be a part of shaping a brighter future for your child.

0:43.0

Visit W.

0:45.0

BGS.ed. E.d. you to learn more about what a strength-based assessment could mean for your family.

0:51.0

That's BGS. E. D.u. And so when we become unhealthy gamers is when the game is the primary

0:59.2

source of our needs fulfillment. So when I am completely ashamed of myself in the real world and

1:06.2

instead of fixing that in any way, shape, or form, I retreat into the virtual identity, that

1:11.7

becomes an unhealthy source of gaming.

1:14.0

So what we really focus on is okay fine by all means play video games because video games are fun

1:18.6

they're here to stay. 98% of people under the age of 30 play video games, they're not going anywhere.

1:24.6

And instead what we really focus on is how can you build a life that is worth living so that

1:30.2

gaming can be recreation. I'm Debbie Reaver and welcome to Tilt Parenting, a podcast featuring interviews and conversations

1:39.6

aimed at inspiring, informing, and supporting parents raising differently wired kids. So I'm inspiring and

1:45.0

my

1:48.0

my 19 year old is also a gamer so I'm no stranger to the reality of

1:51.0

video games being a significant part of daily life. But where's the line

...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Debbie Reber, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Debbie Reber and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.

Copyright © Tapesearch 2025.