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It was one of the great discoveries of civilization that men do not gain acceptance from women by brashly displaying their manhood and aggressive and

violating gestures. But they do gain acceptance by being gentlemen. The gentleman was not

a person with feminine gender and masculine sex.

He was through and through a man.

But he was also gentle in all the senses of that loosened word.

He was not belligerent but courageous, not possessive but protective, not aggressive to other men, but bold, even-tempered, and ready to agree on terms.

He was animated by a sense of honor, which meant taking responsibility

for his actions and shielding those who depended on him. And his most important attribute was

loyalty, which implied that he would not deny his obligations

merely because he was in a position to profit from doing so.

Much of the anger of women toward men has come about because the ideal of the gentleman is now so close to

extinction. Excerpt from modern manhood by Sir Roger Scrutton. Here at

Brighthartth we're for the patriarchy. One of our unofficial mottos,

contra the modern classic, fight the patriarchy is our own twist. Feed the patriarchy.

Yes, give the patriarchy your best sourdough loaf. Make it the best sandwich you've ever made, served with love.

We believe that patriarchy or father rule is both biblically normative and good, not something to be

dismantled, dismissed, or replaced with an egalitarian goo.

The world at large doesn't exactly agree with us on this.

You will rarely hear the word patriarchy without its most popular modern modifier toxic.

Eris O'Malley at the Good Men Project is a good bellwether of this sort of talk

defining toxic masculinity as quote a narrow and repressive description of manhood

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