Toni Bernhard

The One You Feed

Eric Zimmer

Education, Self-improvement, Religion & Spirituality, Health & Fitness, Buddhism, Mental Health

4.6 • 2.5K Ratings

🗓️ 13 January 2016

⏱️ 42 minutes

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Summary

This week we talk to Toni Bernhard about not getting what we want

Toni Bernhard was a law professor at the University of California—Davis when she became very ill. Since then she had dealt with, and helped teach the world about how to deal with chronic conditions.
She is the author of How to Be Sick: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide for the Chronically Ill and their Caregivers. Her second book is titled How to Wake Up: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide to Navigating Joy and Sorrow. Her latest book is How to Live Well with Chronic Pain and Illness.

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In This Interview, Toni and I Discuss

The One You Feed parable
How we are forming our personality as we go
The malleability of the mind
Our inability to be nice ourselves
How it feels good to be nice, kind and compassionate
Her journey through illness
Learning to handle not getting our way
How hard dealing with chronic illness is
How most of our suffering comes from our reaction to events, not the events themselves.
Building a life within our limitations
Dealing with things that are out of our control
How pain and sorrow are inevitable but suffering is optional

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0:00.0	The mind is malleable and flexible, and that means it can change.
0:13.2	Welcome to the One You Feed. Throughout time, great thinkers have recognized the importance of
0:18.3	the thoughts we have, quotes like garbage in, garbage out, or you are what you think, ring true.
0:25.4	And yet, for many of us, our thoughts don't strengthen or empower us. We tend toward negativity,
0:31.4	self-pity, jealousy, or fear. We see what we don't have instead of what we do. We think things that
0:38.1	hold us back and dampen our spirit. But it's not just about thinking. Our actions matter. It takes
0:44.6	conscious, consistent, and creative effort to make a life worth living. This podcast is about how
0:50.4	other people keep themselves moving in the right direction. How they feed their good wolf.
1:07.2	Hi, it's Elvis Jaran. On my new podcast, Thinking Out Loud with Elvis Jaran, I'll be bringing you
1:12.8	candid and maybe sometimes a little crazy interviews with people from all walks of life. We'll touch on
1:17.8	subjects that you just can't talk about on the radio, like life, love, success, failure, whatever
1:22.4	else comes to mind. But all jacked up because after being in this business for as long as I have,
1:27.2	I want to get to the bottom of what makes people tick. And listen to my new podcast, Thinking Out Loud
1:32.7	on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
1:39.6	Thanks for joining us. Our guest on this episode is Tony Bernhard, a law professor for 22 years
1:45.7	at the University of California. Her blog, Turning Straw into Gold, is hosted by Psychology Today
1:52.0	Online. After an illness forced Tony to retire from teaching, she reinvented herself as a writer,
1:58.1	authoring the three books, How to Be Sick, How to Be Well, and How to Wake Up. And here's the
2:04.4	interview with Tony Bernhard. Hi, Tony. Welcome to the show. Thanks for having me. I'm excited to get you
2:10.3	on. You've written three different books about learning to live with things in life not going the
2:15.6	way we want them. And that's a great topic. So we're going to focus on that. But before we get into
2:21.1	your writing, let's start like we always do with the parable of the two wolves. Yes. There's a
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