TLS #132: Self-Worth + Work, Dealing with Family Judgements, & Ambition (Work+Worth Q+A)
The Lively Show
Bella Lively
4.6 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 29 March 2016
⏱️ 33 minutes
🧾️ Download transcript
Summary
Today is a big day: my newest online class, Work+Worth, is now open for registration and I’ve got a new TLS Q+A episode for you!
Work+Worth is three weeks long (starting April 6th, 2016) and will focus on overcoming the stress, exhaustion and emotional roller coaster that happens when we over identify our self-worth with our careers.
You can learn more about Work+Worth and register for the class here.
Today’s TLS Q+A episode is also dedicated to the subject of self-worth and work:
I’m talking about how to respond the “so what do you do?” question, handle negative feedback from family members, deal with self-worth and work issues, and more.
IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL FIND OUT ABOUT
- How to handle it when others ask what you do. How can you answer that in a polite way that also kinda says, “Yes, this is my job but I’m more than just my job.”
- I am a private piano instructor and I find that parents will text me at any hour of day sometimes with topics that should have been emailed. Even if I don’t open it or respond I am still thinking of it at dinner or in the evening. How can I address this or stop thinking about work?
- I constantly struggle with wanting to be everything to everyone (in all aspects of my life but especially my work). How do I set boundaries with myself and others so that I start listening to my own needs and putting myself first?
- I would like to know if you have any tips how to get your partner on family on board while working on your dreams to make them understand that you believe in yourself and what you do and you can do it! I sometimes feel like people are saying “sure” but what they are really saying is “you should find something real to do”.
- What practices do you do to strengthen self-worth? Do you have any touchstones or affirmations that ground you if and when an idea or project doesn’t turn out how you wanted?
- I was un/underemployed for over 4 years and it did a number on my self-esteem. How you work through those feelings of inadequacy when everyone around you has a full-time job and you’re looking really hard and doing everything you can, but nothing is working out.
- What career advice would you give to someone who is excited by many interests and has tried several professional paths, but hasn’t found their ‘calling’ or a career that brings both personal fulfillment and financial security?
- How do you balance patience and ambition in your work, and keep it separate from self worth? Ambition has always been a part of my self worth so what happens when I separate from that?
SHOW NOTES
The Minimalists take on ‘What do you do?’
Brené Brown on The Lively Show
Purpose Is Not “The Thing” You Do, It Is Within You
Gary Vaynerchuk on The Lively Show
Transcript
Click on a timestamp to play from that location
| 0:00.0 | You're listening to The Lively Show, episode 132. |
| 0:03.4 | Welcome to the Lively Show. |
| 0:07.0 | I'm your host Jess Lively, and this blogcast |
| 0:09.4 | is designed to uplift, inspire, and add a little |
| 0:11.8 | extra intention to your everyday. Welcome to the show guys. Thank you so much as always for listening. This special |
| 0:25.4 | Q&A episode is on my newest favorite topic that I have been studying since last |
| 0:30.3 | May, all about work and self-worth. Why work and self-worth. |
| 0:33.6 | Why work and self-worth you might ask? |
| 0:36.1 | Because I actually struggle with this myself |
| 0:38.5 | up until last May when I realized that it was a problem. |
| 0:42.1 | I found myself frustrated for what felt like the millionth time looking at my |
| 0:46.7 | statistics on my website and the blog and podcast back then and as many times before there was a temporary dip in traffic |
| 0:56.7 | which sent me whirling and feeling like I was doing something wrong. |
| 1:01.1 | And I was so frustrated with this feeling and I was so used to feeling this way over the six or seven years by that point that I've been doing this stuff that I wanted out. I wanted out of that suffering. I wanted out of that suffering I wanted out of that emotional roller coaster of |
| 1:16.0 | self-worth and work and in that moment realized that what I was dealing with was not |
| 1:22.0 | just something normal quote-unquote that everyone suffers with that those that do suffer with this may see it as normal because there are so many people in our society today struggling like this, but that doesn't mean that that is |
| 1:34.2 | normal or that that should be the case. And in that realization I decided to devote the |
| 1:40.1 | next course of my own study to figure out how I could get through this process, detach |
| 1:45.9 | my self-worth from my work, and help others to do so. |
| 1:49.3 | So I've spent almost 100 hours interviewing fellow work and self-worth sufferers as well as experts and |
| 1:55.2 | coaches to find out more about those who are struggling with this like myself and |
| 1:59.2 | also what we can do about it. It has been my pleasure to be working on this and to come up with a |
... |
Please login to see the full transcript.
Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Bella Lively, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.
Generated transcripts are the property of Bella Lively and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.
Copyright © Tapesearch 2025.