Thoughts about sex

You Are Not Broken

Kelly Casperson, MD

Medicine, Health & Fitness

5 • 743 Ratings

🗓️ 10 September 2020

⏱️ 9 minutes

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The MASTER CLASS is starting soon! From boring to mind blowing! Sex education and coaching! www.kellycaspersonmd.com Thoughts about sex Let’s hear about a “typical” woman who comes to me for sexual issues. KY Jelly is the Betty Crocker of lube – it is everywhere, but not always great. Figure out what your sexual goals are. Your thoughts about sex influence your sexual satisfaction. Your thoughts are not facts. If your goal is to be a happy sexual person but your thoughts tell you otherwise, we are stuck! Sometimes thoughts are put in your head by other people, things, society. Especially about sex. I can’t get you to comfortable enjoyable sex if your thought is, “I am not a sexual being” Your body is listening to your thoughts. Sex and body image. Thoughts create our feelings which create our actions. Some of our thoughts aren’t serving us anymore. Sometimes we can’t make a thought go away, but we can see it for what it is – not a fact and not helping you. You can work on replacing your thoughts. Negative thoughts can’t get you to a positive solution. Sex coaching! Your biggest sex organ is your brain. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kj-casperson/message Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Welcome to You Are Not Broken, the only podcast that combines science, medicine, and psychology, to re-educate your brain and help you live your best love life.
0:15.9	And I'm your host, Ford Certified Female Urologist, Dr. Casperson.
0:24.3	Hey, guys. board certified female urologist Dr. Casperson. Hey guys, today I'm going to talk about a patient that came in to see me, and I'm going to
0:28.8	kind of make her a generic person because this is so incredibly common. This applies to so many
0:33.1	people. So a lady comes in. She's, you know, middle-aged, late 50s, early 60s. She has grown kids. They're out of the
0:42.5	house. She may be on her first marriage or she may have, be on multiple marriages. And she comes in
0:48.7	with pain with sex. And basically she's stopped having sex because of the pain. And we talk about her pelvis and her muscles and her vaginal estrogen status and hormone
0:59.9	creams and lubrication and all the things that urologists do.
1:04.0	So not to negate the importance of all of those things.
1:07.0	I always get a physical therapist involved with pain with sex.
1:10.8	Nearly universally are
1:12.5	going to use some sort of prescription hormone cream after perimenopause, postmenopause, or
1:18.9	side effects from birth control pills. So unless there's a contraindication because of cancer or
1:24.1	something like that. And lubrication, a lot of these women have never tried lubrication.
1:28.9	They're just stuffing a penis into their vagina with spit. Or, you know, K-Y jelly is like the,
1:34.9	I don't know, it's universal. It's like the Betty Crocker of lube. You can find it everywhere.
1:39.7	But it's water-based and for really dry skin, it does not work well. So the other thing is just acknowledging the role that vaginal dryness plays in discomfort
1:50.3	with sex.
1:51.5	So not to negate the importance of that, but the point of this podcast is about the mind.
1:56.5	So inevitably, you know, I always ask her what her goals are, because if she doesn't know what her
2:01.2	goals are, I can't help her. I've got so many tools in my toolbox for better sex and books and
2:06.8	resources and websites and therapists and sex therapists. But if you don't have a goal, then I don't know
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