We are so honored to welcome back renowned psychotherapist and bestselling author Esther Perel to discuss a variety of topics for both people in relationships and those looking for love. She speaks on the challenge of meeting people today and gives advice for how single people can reframe dating (especially first dates). Moving onto relationships, we discuss how in every relationship someone needs more security and someone needs more freedom, how reactions in relationships are like a figure 8 and how to manage conflicts better, the theory of fundamental attribution error and thinking we are more complex than our partners, when we are most attracted to our partners and why, and the four things you can do in a relationship to keep the desire thriving. Before Esther joins us, we talk about guys having bad fashion on vacations, Rayna's surgery, Ashley's pregnancy prevention, and the stark difference in how we do laundry. We also answer a listener's email about meeting a great guy right before moving and what she should do. Enjoy! Follow Esther on Instagram @estherperelofficial, check out her podcast Where Should We Begin?, and visit her website for more. Follow us @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit our website for tour dates, merchandise, and more. Shop Vibes Only. Thank you to our partners this week: Hello Fresh: Get 50% off plus free shipping at hellofresh.com/gge50 and use code GGE50. Buffy: Get $20 off your order at buffy.co and enter promo code GGE. ZocDoc: Go to zocdoc.com/gge and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for free and book a top-rated doctor. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month's subscription and free shipping at nutrafol.com when you use promo code GGE. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices