You're listening to TED Talks Daily, where we bring you new ideas and conversations to spark your curiosity every day.

I'm your host, Elise Hugh.

I have three kids under the age of 13, and it's an emotional roller coaster.

Sure, I know that we all lose our temper from time to time, but the

stakes feel really high when the focus of my fury happens to be my own kid. He screams,

I hate you, he runs out of the room and he slams his bedroom door. And now my self-loathing session

begins, as I say to myself, what is wrong with me?

I've messed up my kid forever.

That's clinical psychologist and renowned parenting whisperer Becky Kennedy.

In her talk originally posted in 2023,

she offers practical advice for how to manage the guilt and shame

of our not-so-great moments with our kids.

There is no such thing as a perfect parent.

Mistakes and struggles, they come with the job.

But no one tells us what to do next.

Whenever a parent asks me, what one parenting strategy should I focus on?

I always say the same thing.

Get good at repair. And for all of you who are not parents or guardians, don't worry. As you might have guessed, this advice works well in all other types of relationships too. Becky's bottom line,

it's never too late to reconnect.

That's coming up right after a short break.

And now our TED Talk of the Day.

So it's Sunday night.

...