The Shame Of Narcissistic Abuse

Trauma & Narcissism Redefined

Caroline Strawson

Narcissisticabuse, Health & Fitness, Narcissist, Self-improvement, Education, Recovery, Mental Health, Trauma

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 12 September 2023

⏱️ 19 minutes

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Summary

Many of us who've experienced narcissistic abuse often blame ourselves and carry the shame. But it's important to understand that we're not at fault. We need to find healthy ways to release our anger and heal from our abusive past. In this episode, I'll share my story of overcoming shame and finding healing, and I'll show you how you can do the same.

What you will learn in this episode:

How to overcome our abusive past and heal our inner thoughts
Why we often blame ourselves instead of the abuser
How holding onto shame and guilt can lead to chronic illness

Have you ever wondered, "Why did I stay so long?" or thought, "How could I have been so foolish?" These self-blaming questions often arise when we've been through abuse, but it's important to remember that the blame lies with the abuser, not us. It's natural to feel responsible as a way to protect ourselves from future harm, but we must acknowledge that we're not to blame. To begin healing from narcissistic abuse, we need to let go of the anger from our past.

Resources:

Join the VIP Waitlist for my Narcissistic Trauma Informed Coaching Certification: https://carolinestrawson.com/ntic-waitlist
Join my FREE Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse
Access my low cost Narcissistic Trauma Recovery Programme https://go.carolinestrawson.com/heal-the-trauma-of-narcissistic-abuse
Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/
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My website: https://www.carolinestrawson.com/

Transcript

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0:00.0	Welcome to the narcissistic abused and trauma recovery podcast. I'm Caroline Stawson and I'll be sharing with you, awareness, understanding and education about the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse. I've been exactly where you are right now. And this podcast is a beacon of hope
0:23.1	for you to know that you are believed, you are seen, you are heard and you are not alone. And my hope
0:30.9	for listening to the podcast is it will help you move from post-traumatic stress to post-traumatic growth after the trauma of narcissistic abuse
0:40.1	because it is possible. You are enough and you deserve to thrive.
0:48.2	Hi my friends and a massive welcome to the narcissistic abuse and trauma recovery podcast.
0:56.8	I'm literally sat in my car right now, a passenger and I'm on my way to an event. And whilst I thought, do I do this
1:05.8	podcast? I thought I need to get it out there because it's something I've thought a lot about
1:09.5	over the past few days.
1:11.0	And I feel like it would be really relevant to many of you as well.
1:13.6	And that really was how I felt in those moments when I came out of that relationship and realized
1:19.1	that the marriage I had been in was abusive.
1:24.0	Now, there was all the other emotional sides of feeling like I had obviously realized I'd been
1:31.3	an abusive relationship. I was suffering with depression, anxiety, self-harm, more or less daily
1:37.5	panic attacks or desperately trying not to have a panic attack. And life was really, really tough.
1:43.4	And I was really at rock bottom. You know,
1:46.9	there I was this single mother, barely any money, literally trying to pay my bills, not having
1:54.3	enough coming in to go out, putting brown envelopes in the bin, just really, really feeling
2:00.7	like, is this what my life has come to?
2:03.9	It was a really, really, really dark, dark time of my life. And one of the things that I really realized was,
2:11.3	how could I have been so stupid? Why did I stay for so long? Now, some of you may relate to this as well as you're going through
2:20.1	that. And, you know, very often one of the things that we find is when we come out of these
2:24.2	abusive relationships, the criticism to ourselves starts. You know, how could I be so stupid? How could I not see
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