Last time on this podcast we addressed how to overcome dysfunctional patterns that you learned

as you were growing up from your family of origin. Now today we're going to follow up and

offer a healthy approach for your parenting

here and now even if you're a bit discouraged I know you're going to find some hope

today. I'm John Fuller joined by Dr. Danny Werta. He leads our parenting department here at Focus and let's go ahead and hear more from a conversation that Jim Daly and I had with Mylan and K Yerkovich. They are such an articulate, understanding, caring, and transparent couple.

And they offer some great insights about how the family you grew up in influences your family now.

And then lastly, as we talk about a voider, pleaser, vacillator, controller victim.

We've covered a lot of ground there for the discussion. The place we want to be is

secure connector. Desc that. Well the secure connector is raised in a home

where they learn to take their pain and their difficult emotions into relationship.

There's a wide range of emotions.

Every motion is okay and they're taught to manage those emotions appropriately as they grow up.

So when you become a secure connector, you're going to be able to really emotionally

engage with your kids.

Their feelings aren't going to overwhelm you.

You're going to be able to help them learn what to do

with those difficult emotions that we all face.

You'll be able to say no.

It's not going to be a feeling of like, well, I can't say no, my kids won't like me.

So a secure parent brings a lot into the relationship.

They're coming from a place of strength as a parent. And they're coming from a place of strength as a parent and they're taking the skills

that they've learned into their parenting you know the Bible says a pupil can't

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